Hi, first time poster here. I'm still new to plate spinning/DJ lifestyle but I'm trying to learn it in earnest. Was married 4 years, separated for a year now, and finalising my divorce. A friend turned me towards The Rational Male and it made me understand how much of a compromising little AFC b!tch I was, and here I am now starting over. So with that intro out of the way here's my question:
Is there a strategy for going about making plates out of people who only knew me when I was in a LTR/marriage? I went through my entire university with the same woman and got married to her while I was a student and now I have former classmates I want to try to take on as plates now that I'm single. Problem is they knew me as a married man and I treated them like I wanted their company only as lab partners/study buddies and acted like I wasn't otherwise interested (which I think they totally fed off of). I generally keep my personal life quite private and these girls have no idea I'm single now. When I bump into them around town or strike up a text convo or whatever what I want to do is lead towards getting out and doing something with them but it doesn't make sense unless I start explaining (done this now once and I realised how pointless it was). I'm thinking the last thing I want to do is reconnect with these girls over sharing the news of my failed marriage. Is this a workable situation where I can keep a certain level of rapport and move things along or am I battling an unavoidable scenario where they will ultimately feel uncomfortable?
Is there a strategy for going about making plates out of people who only knew me when I was in a LTR/marriage? I went through my entire university with the same woman and got married to her while I was a student and now I have former classmates I want to try to take on as plates now that I'm single. Problem is they knew me as a married man and I treated them like I wanted their company only as lab partners/study buddies and acted like I wasn't otherwise interested (which I think they totally fed off of). I generally keep my personal life quite private and these girls have no idea I'm single now. When I bump into them around town or strike up a text convo or whatever what I want to do is lead towards getting out and doing something with them but it doesn't make sense unless I start explaining (done this now once and I realised how pointless it was). I'm thinking the last thing I want to do is reconnect with these girls over sharing the news of my failed marriage. Is this a workable situation where I can keep a certain level of rapport and move things along or am I battling an unavoidable scenario where they will ultimately feel uncomfortable?