How do I stop worrying so much?

[Viper]

Man, I freaking worry to much, I don't know why, but I just can't approach a random chick and say "Hey, how's it going?", I don't know, maybe I'm scared she'll think I'm weird or it wont go well, man I'm a faggot, I'm scared to approach a girl, I mean, come on. But dude, how do I stop worrying so damn much man? No matter how much I try to get my body over it, I still get this nervous feeling, when I even think about approaching a girl I don't know and asking her that, I want to get over this feeling, and I'm honestly starting to think that's somethings wrong with me, for not being able to do something this simple.

 

[Fitch]

Man, I freaking worry to much, I don't know why, but I just can't approach a random chick and say "Hey, how's it going?", I don't know, maybe I'm scared she'll think I'm weird or it wont go well, man I'm a faggot, I'm scared to approach a girl, I mean, come on. But dude, how do I stop worrying so damn much man? No matter how much I try to get my body over it, I still get this nervous feeling, when I even think about approaching a girl I don't know and asking her that, I want to get over this feeling, and I'm honestly starting to think that's somethings wrong with me, for not being able to do something this simple.

It's perfectly normal to feel nervous as you approach a girl, or as you plan to approach a girl. Especially in your early stages of practice; you're just not used to it yet.

So, get used to it! Get used to that feeling. It will not go away just yet. What you need to do is push through it. All of us may feel nervous; we are human, you know. Girls get nervous when a hot guy approaches them--they react in various ways...some are rude, and cold, whereas others are warm, and energetic.

Approach that girl, with that uneasy feeling in your stomach as you exit your comfort zone, and be bold. Say Hey as if today's the last day you will live.

And I can guarantee you, after the approach, and possibly the introduction, you will not feel scared, or nervous! Then, you will walk away from the girl thinking, "Oh man Fitch was absolutely correct! There is nothing wrong with feeling nervous, but what the hell was I nervous for; it was nothing!"

Ignore your brain, as it tries to second guess your actions. It never helps anyone. It resulted in Hamlet's downfall, Oedipus's downfall, and people in our generation. Over-thinking is hazardous. You resolved to approach this particular girl, NOW do it--with that uncomfortable feeling in your stomach that you will soon miss as you reflect back on your younger days.

P.S. A lot of girls find a little nervousness to be cute. So much, I even fake it at times--with my girlfriend, or prospective girlfriend (note: a WHILE after I approach)

 

[shydude]

HEy Viper, hows it going kiddo?? OK anyways, get AIM, ICQ, or whatever, we will be able to talk there,, TOP SECRET STUFF!!! when you get it, you tell me bro, peace outzz

 

[oakraiderz2]

Stop Fvcking Posting!!!! Goddamn!

 

[Viper]

It's perfectly normal to feel nervous as you approach a girl, or as you plan to approach a girl. Especially in your early stages of practice; you're just not used to it yet.

So, get used to it! Get used to that feeling. It will not go away just yet. What you need to do is push through it. All of us may feel nervous; we are human, you know. Girls get nervous when a hot guy approaches them--they react in various ways...some are rude, and cold, whereas others are warm, and energetic.

Approach that girl, with that uneasy feeling in your stomach as you exit your comfort zone, and be bold. Say Hey as if today's the last day you will live.

And I can guarantee you, after the approach, and possibly the introduction, you will not feel scared, or nervous! Then, you will walk away from the girl thinking, "Oh man Fitch was absolutely correct! There is nothing wrong with feeling nervous, but what the hell was I nervous for; it was nothing!"

Ignore your brain, as it tries to second guess your actions. It never helps anyone. It resulted in Hamlet's downfall, Oedipus's downfall, and people in our generation. Over-thinking is hazardous. You resolved to approach this particular girl, NOW do it--with that uncomfortable feeling in your stomach that you will soon miss as you reflect back on your younger days.

Good information, but what worries me the most is how I'll open and how the girl will think of that open. Still, it's good advice and it's definitely helps me in feeling comfortable about approaching. Like I said before, my biggest fear, is that the girl will think that me opening that way is weird, especially since she doesn't know me. Also, tell me, am I right? Does the average female find this weird? Or am I just psyching out?

Stop Fvcking Posting!!!! Goddamn!

You stop posting. And if you call this posts complaining, when it clearly HAS a purpose and is asking for advice, you don't know the difference between the two. Stop posting in my topics, since you seem to be so good with women, I'd think a guy like you would have better things to do, then waste your time posting useless ****, in the topic of a faggot teenager, who doesn't even have the balls to go up to a girl and say, "Hey, how's it going?", because he thinks going up to a random girl and saying that, might seem a little weird.

Better save all of this good advice, because more than likely the moderators will lock/delete it for some stupid reason. Listen, I'm not looking for grieve, I'm not looking for you to cry on my shoulder, I'm not complaining, I'm just looking for advice.

 

[oakraiderz2]

You stop posting. And if you call this posts complaining, when it clearly HAS a purpose and is asking for advice, you don't know the difference between the two. Stop posting in my topics, since you seem to be so good with women, I'd think a guy like you would have better things to do, then waste your time posting useless ****, in the topic of a faggot teenager, who doesn't even have the balls to go up to a girl and say, "Hey, how's it going?", because he thinks going up to a random girl and saying that, might seem a little weird.

I posted that before i took my nappy nap...haha. By the way...you called yourself a fag.haha

 

[we all eat food]

VIPER

YOU KNOW WHAT HAPPENS TO PEOPL WHO ARE SCARED

N-O-T-H-I-N-G

noTHING!!!

now be a ****ing man and do something instead of *****ing to a bunch of people you dont know

 

[B-Lemond]

Bootcamp


That is your answer.

You want to change?

Take all of your PAIN and use it to MOTIVATE you to FINISH Bootcamp.

Shezz's Bootcamp is starting next Monday.

Do you Really want to Change?


YOU CAN DO IT VIPER!




On a side note, all of the NEGATIVE posters on this thread: Expect to get some BAD reputation points!

There is no need to be NEGATIVE. If you are a REAL DJ, you'd Understand...

Stay Positve Fellas


And Your fate is in your Hands, Viper Do the Bootcamp!

 

[Vincent]

You stop posting.

No. You.

I told you before viper. I cant stand you and your threads. You miss the point of sosuave and need to get out. We are not your psychiatrist, so quit treating us like one, even though it really sounds like you need one.

Want to learn how to approach chicks? Want advice? Everything that has ever been said to you is in some form or another been placed in the dj bible by great posters of our past. READ IT! Your problems are not unique.

Like I said before, If I see anything other then you posting a success report I will close it, and dont bother trying to call out the moderator staff for closing your threads, because everyone of them violates the sticky at the top.