How do I stop her from breaking up with me?

[BOESBOES14]

My girlfriend told me the spark was gone. She did not end the relationship yet.
We decided to see eachother next Tuesday and that will be the first face to face talk since she told me the bad news.

I have not been a jerk and have always been respectful.

The only problem I can think of is me being a TOO nice guy.

I expect she will end the relationship as soon as she sees me...

How do I stop her from breaking up with me?
Can I change from nice guy to Alpha Male in the last 5 days without seeing her?

 

[than]

break up with her first

 

[BOESBOES14]

Why would that help? Please explain.

 

[Merris]

You don't. She will do what she wants. Your job is finding a spine and not letting it bother you. If you're sure she is going to break up, dump her and concentrate on the more important things in your life. Sounds like you two are doing like ****; there's no point in enduring the stupid agony of a bad relationship. Take lead, dump her and go build yourself. That is the best solution for you.

 

[Maximus Rex]

You don't. She will do what she wants. Your job is finding a spine and not letting it bother you. If you're sure she is going to break up, dump her and concentrate on the more important things in your life. Sounds like you two are doing like ****; there's no point in enduring the stupid agony of a bad relationship. Take lead, dump her and go build yourself. That is the best solution for you.

Take the loss, learn from it, and avoid serious relationships until your 25. Build a circle of hot female friends that look waaay cuter than the old chick ever did.

 

[TheWingMan]

If she wants to go then let her go. Basically, do everything that Merris said.

 

[Justin Time]

Yep. Dump her. That will catch her off guard. Take control of the situation. Learn from it, and do your best to move on.

 

[Mr Wright]

Take the loss, learn from it, and avoid serious relationships until your 25. Build a circle of hot female friends that look waaay cuter than the old chick ever did.

Literally the best advice you could give. I've seen too many young guys my age, including myself, get way too into relationships at a young age and just miss out on fun. Get hot female friends, it's not actually that hard, bang their friends and just enjoy your youth.

 

[ludis]

"The spark's gone" is just a bull**** rationalisation, she's going to get rid of you soon. In the meantime she has your hamster spinning like mad and is probably already enjoying the anguish it causes you.

Contrary to what they say, women of all ages want to be treated like little girls from a guy that owns a spine.

So dump her now and don't fall for any guilt-tripping post-breakup.
You don't even owe an explanation.

Cut contact completely, or at least until you've managed to move on.

 

[Blistex]

To answer your question directly: there is nothing I can think of that can save your relationship at this point. If the intimacy/spark is gone then it is time to move on.

You'd have to apply no contact to this situation. Meaning you cease all contact with her. Perhaps then she might come back to you but no guarantees.

 

[BOESBOES14]

Thanks to all you guys! I just got back from our final "date" and I am happy to announce my free life. Ready to do the things you suggested. ^^

Thanks again,

BOESBOES14

 

[Alvafe]

since you said final date I guess she was the one who break up with you.

ok now start the no contact, and please don't break it even if she calls you