How do I start?

[Firee]

She is in my office. She joined as a fresher couple of months back. I noticed her from day 1.

She joined along with several of her fellow college mates, so she is always hanging around with them, as is natural when you join a new company (its her first job).

Anyways, she didn't notice me much for the first couple of months, and I also did not make too many attempts, but I used to make sure to try and make eye contact as much as possible.

In between, we didn't cross our path very often as we work on different floors, but for the past couple of days, I noticed she has started making eye contact and looking directly at me whenever we crossed paths. This gives me a signal (I hope) that its time to get serious.

As a noob, and with not much success, I look forward to the don juan's here to guide me. I am 5 years older to her, but don't look like it, looks are okay.

 

[TheGambino]

Make a small chit chat with her and flirt when you get the chance. Don't be afraid to sometimes ignore her, like your busy and don't make it seem like shes all that's on you rmind. When you talk to her don't tell to much about you but ask her stuff when you approach her and make her laugh.

If you feel that she likes your company and your vibing pull the trigger and say ''well need to run now, why don't you give me your number we could go for a drink sometime'' number close and leave. Then hit her up 3days later to set up a date. easy

 

[Maximus Rex]

Stopped Reading After the Quoted Part

She is in my office.

Don't f*ck with your co-workers.

 

[Firee]

Make a small chit chat with her and flirt when you get the chance. Don't be afraid to sometimes ignore her, like your busy and don't make it seem like shes all that's on you rmind. When you talk to her don't tell to much about you but ask her stuff when you approach her and make her laugh.

If you feel that she likes your company and your vibing pull the trigger and say ''well need to run now, why don't you give me your number we could go for a drink sometime'' number close and leave. Then hit her up 3days later to set up a date. easy

Thanks Gambino, looks like some solid tips, already feel confident..

 

[Firee]

Don't f*ck with your co-workers.

Thanks for the heads up, but what's wrong in hooking up with co-workers. I know that professionally it might be like playing with fire, but this girl is working in another department, and this freshers have no guarantee how long they will stick to one organization, so I don't want to lose this chance.

 

[Mr Wright]

Time for the truth, you start by forgetting this girl, she's no one. You may talk to her once and find out shes dull as anything or has awful personal hygiene.

If you want to start choosing the women you want to be with, undertake the journey.

By all means have a shot at the girl but forget the outcome, it is so much bigger than her.

 

[Firee]

Time for the truth, you start by forgetting this girl, she's no one. You may talk to her once and find out shes dull as anything or has awful personal hygiene.

If you want to start choosing the women you want to be with, undertake the journey.

By all means have a shot at the girl but forget the outcome, it is so much bigger than her.

Thanks Wright,will keep that in mind... but i gotta get this girl, by hook or crook, she has huge tits man

 

[Maximus Rex]

You Know How Needy and Desperate You Sound

Thanks for the heads up, but what's wrong in hooking up with co-workers. I know that professionally it might be like playing with fire,

Dude, you just answered your own question. Unless you don't a f*ck about your job and the problems that a workplace romance can produce then have it, but however, if this is position is a "resume builder," or your in career, DO NOT JEOPARDIZE YOUR INCOME BY HOLLERIN' AT YOUR CO-WORKERS. There's too much potential for a cluster eff. Who cares that she works in another department and you don't see her, all it take is for her to feel some kinda of way about you hollerin' at her and she reports you to HR. Suppose you you do hook up with her and sh*t breaks bad. She might go on some vindictive sh*t and report you to HR. What if some other dudes are trying to holler at her? How are you doing to react and feel about that? I'm tellin' you potna, LEAVE THIS THE F*CK ALONE! You'll be glad you did.

so I don't want to lose this chance.

:crackup: Dude, do you know how weak that sounds? You're making it sound like babygirl is the only hot chick in your town and just because she halfed-a$$ed waved at you, that you have some kind of action. Here's what you do, see if there's some kind of way that you can get an inside track on how long she's going to be there. If you find out she's about to bounce, go for it or include her in your social circle. However, if you do that, you have to in essence be the "Dos Equis Man," when y'all are kicking it and you have to give a reason to want to f*ck with you. Good luck

 

[Mr Wright]

Thanks Wright,will keep that in mind... but i gotta get this girl, by hook or crook, she has huge tits man

You've already created a dynamic in your head where you're chasing her. What's actually special enough about this girl for you to write a thread on her?

 

[Firee]

@Maximus Rex & Mr Wright:

First of all, this is one forum which I rate very highly, and I feel I should open myself fully to the experts so that they can advise me better. Yes, I may sound like a babygirl, but that is what you experts have identified and I hope you can help me correct my mistakes. Also I have the independence here to pour out all my thoughts and objectives, for example I will say openly that yes I want to f**k this babe badly, but I am willing to wait for it, go step by step.

I am from India, and here work culture is bit different, so you can leave it to me to judge the situation better. Office flings are okay as long you have 'got' the girl, of course office sex is not permitted.

Finally, I admit that I am not good not lucky with girls, hence I had to ask for all of your help, else why would I come here. I am not good at creating chances and I know I need to socialize more to create more chances, but when I see this chance infront of me, I want to go for it, just need to know from you guys what I need to do. I will give this 2 weeks at the most, if not then I will move on.

 

[VladPatton]

Look, none of us are experts at anything, and we all fail when we don't know what the hell to do just like anyone else. What we are though, is just a group of guys that agree on a specific set of guides to help us not get burned with girls. For the most part, these guides work very well for us in both getting laid and in maintaining our mental sanity. It's your choice to listen or to ignore. I advise you listen to the consensus.

When one guy says you're drunk, you may or may not be. When 1,000 guys say you're drunk, you're a drunk mudderfaqua!

 

[Yewki]

Anyways, she didn't notice me much for the first couple of months, and I also did not make too many attempts, but I used to make sure to try and make eye contact as much as possible.

If you're actually serious about pursuing a girl at work, you really shouldn't wait months to do something about it.

I noticed she has started making eye contact and looking directly at me whenever we crossed paths. This gives me a signal (I hope) that its time to get serious.

As you prob already know you care too much. You're putting her on a pedestal. You "hope"? Stop hoping. It will get serious when you take the action to make it serious. When you talk to her next, you need to care about the outcome as little as possible. If she suddenly says "F*** you, never talk to me again" would you be able go on about your day as though nothing happened?

Finally, I admit that I am not good not lucky with girls

Don't relate luck with success, it brings yourself out of the equation... you are the equation.

 

[Mr Wright]

Your lust for the girl is the symptom, your social problems are the illness itself.

Not trying to dishearten you but you're getting way too emotionally attached to the outcome when this chick probably doesnt even know your name.

Here's what I would do step by step:

1) Next time I saw her, walk over and say something like "we work in the same building and I still have no idea who you are" introduce yourself...
2) Tease her on something...literally anything and mention it once when you first talk and once at the end( you end the interaction first)
3) Over time, as you bump into her tease her a little but dont act like a goon.
4) After a week or so of that crap if it's going well I'd say something like "you seem cool, lets go for a drink after work"

But as you're in India, I dont know the culture that well, so that may come across differently over there. Escalating in situations at work often have to come organically hence why there is so little material on it because it's easy to fvck up with a girl and the consequences could be high. You want to go in under the radar but I live by the principle, the more you see someone the more you think you know them, even if its just 20 second convos. And also that if you stick two people in a room, they will eventually fvck. Be present