Theres a girl i might be interested in that just started hanging out with my group of friends in the last 2 months. the thing is im pretty sure 2 of my other guy friends also have a thing for her. i feel like im in a damn race for this girl or something stupid like that. i dont make myself too available to her and im always making ****y funny comments around her. how can i set myself apart from the other guys? theyre constantly texting her and giving her attention so im pretty sure im doing the right thing so far...
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
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how do i set myself apart from other guys?
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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If you are interested in this girl, make a damn move. Just do it like Nike. You feel like you're in a race, which seems to put you in a bad mindset, making you feel like you'll lose.
Are you interested in these other 2 guys? If not, just talk to the girl fearlessly, like a man, and if you get rejected, you got rejected as a man, not a boy.
Remember that pretty women, and these days, ugly women got lots of options. Making a move is better than waiting for her to come to you. So go for it.
Case closed.
Are you interested in these other 2 guys? If not, just talk to the girl fearlessly, like a man, and if you get rejected, you got rejected as a man, not a boy.
Remember that pretty women, and these days, ugly women got lots of options. Making a move is better than waiting for her to come to you. So go for it.
Case closed.
Romjuan
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i dont know what is the right thing to do but ill share my experience with you. i use to be in a frat and their was one girl that would hang out at our "house" a lot. she was pretty much interested in me and my frat bro. he was trying really hard, and i have always been the type like bros before hos so i would not try at all. i just kept being myself and let him do his thing( even though i really really liked this girl) so he ended up hooking up with her, he got head a couple times or so and the fact that he gave her more attention in the begining and my lack of, she fell for him. he ended up nexting her and we just kept being cool friends. a year later we hooked up and did a ltr. it was a horrible relationship because i could never get over the fact that my friend hooked up with her.
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I suppose by sitting back and playing it cool, you could be setting yourself apart. But I'm betting it's more likely that your more aggressive friends will be getting her attention. If they're engaging her in a sexual way and you're not, she may not even notice you. Usually acting disinterested only works on the very hottest chicks because they're so used to getting hit on by every guy they meet.
If you lay back, it might work, but I'd say it's a huge roll of the dice. In the meantime, your buddies could be advancing toward their target.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Sitting back, in my experience at least, really only works when you already have the girl hooked. You have to engage her so that she'll notice you. At the same time there's no need to openly compete with your friends over a girl. Nobody wins as there will be resentment from everyone. While your friends are sitting there texting this girl, you should straight up ask her out.