how do i respond to this...

[tangoblue]

and email from my gf:

"one thing i've been thinking about is, you might not understand when i really feel bad...it has been on my mind since a long time ago.
i think i have some things that you might hate, and maybe that makes me afraid. "

how the hell do i respond to this...

 

[Hirez]

Hummm...

It's so vague....but I would be willing to guess she ****ed some guy some time during the relationship because it doesn't seem like she wants to break up...

So the question you have to ask yourself, if she did **** someone, what are you going to do? Are you going to AFC and ride along with her, or are you going to next her and find someone you have more authority and power over...

Its on you jack...read through more post and maybe you will find some other ways...

 

[tangoblue]

do you think it is always AFC to stay with a girl when she ****ed someone else?

what i really mean is, should i pretend to care if she did...because, honestly, it doesn't matter to me if she did or not...

when i think about it, i don't feel at all jealous..

 

[tangoblue]

i read from this site about a year ago, and then went away for a while...

throughout that time, i have so brainwashed myself into self-confidence, that i don't even care if my gf is exclusive to me anymore... is that a bad thing?

but this is getting off the subject... i don't want to jump to conclusions
this is a pretty ****ing vague message..

 

[Hirez]

Well...

If you are serious about a long term relationship with her...you must demand total respect and ****ing someone else is a sign of disrespect...

Now if you have developed to the point to where you are stronger and can demand that respect from her now whereas you couldn't before...I unlike many on this site believe the relationship can be salvaged and restored...but you have to be the alpha male...the leader...the dominant force in the relationship from here on out...

I would say some **** like this (even though I most likely wouldn't stay, but that is me)...look, you ****ed up, I recognize that...I forgive you for that **** but if you ever do it again or even come close it is over because I will not tolerate that disrespect ever again...say it in a serious, non-angry matter of fact tone...and then don't talk about it anymore...and if anything even remotely close occurs again...next her ass..

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by tangoblue
and email from my gf:

"one thing i've been thinking about is, you might not understand when i really feel bad...it has been on my mind since a long time ago.
i think i have some things that you might hate, and maybe that makes me afraid. "

how the hell do i respond to this...

You say this "well how are you or I supposed to know if I hate something if you don't talk to me about it? Now I feel like you're keeping secrets from me and it's going to be hard for me to trust you if you don't tell me what you're talking about."