How do I Respond to This Email

[CaConfused]

I asked girl for drinks tomorrow. She shows heavy interest (online date). This is her response. How and when should I respond? It's annoying she didn't offer an alternative, but she obviously is interested since she responded with a phone number. Thanks!

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I won't make it tomorrow because I volunteer every Tuesday afternoon helping kids with disabilities ride horses. I won't be finished until 8ish in [place 30 minutes away].
I'm about to run out the door to beat the heat by the pool.
Feel free to text or call me at xxxxxxxxx.
Stay cool,
xxxx

 

[TheException]

I asked girl for drinks tomorrow.

This is why you dont get super specific with date plans until you atleast find out when shes free....if you just pick a random day that you're free and a time...she may really have something to do. From now on just ask "Hey, when are you free to get drinks this week?" Then you can pick a day and time.

But nonetheless if she was super attracted she would have met with you as 8PM isnt that late. But since its online, im sure shes "iffy" about every guy that messages her. I would take her number and text her like 4 days and try again. If she declines again, thats twice, and its best to forget her.

Just email back "ok, no big deal"

 

[dementia]

Drop the something about Mary line: "wow that's great...Ya know I dunno what it is but there's just something about retards that puts a smile on my face"

Nah seriously though. Sounds like you asked for a spontanious date and she hasn't counter offered but almost has in the sense she left numbers and xxxx. Doesn't want u to think she's flaking I think. Go for a date a couple days from now, on the weekend perhaps. With dates give a few days from when you're asking and give specific day time, place ( only meeting place need be specific I tend to try hype the date up using the place we 'will' go without saying exactly where).

Also send the email tomorrow so she's not going home, catching ur message then going to bed forgetting about it. I find girls don't like the when r u free question as its the norm and they can flake. With specifics you are fishing for the counter offer ioi

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Dude, very simple. Just throw another ball in her court by telling her something mildy teasing, yet getting to the point, "I understand. You have a curfew. Anyway, what is your availability?"
Do it by phone, not text. This will any initial break the tension/ackwardness and let her know you are not bent out of shape she couldn't make it, and a fun guy who is ready to tease her about stuff, and most importantly will ge her to tell you the different times she's available. Let the conversation go from there.

You are asking for days that WILL WORK, as opposed to asking her specifically to meet you on a particular evening. Guess what, most broads do or could have plans almost at any time. She did give her her phone number, so make sure you use it. I would recomend you call her instead of texting her, as this will put you ahead of the countless chumps who just text her, specially when asking her out.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

dp.

 

[TheException]

"I understand. You have a curfew. Anyway, what is your availability?"

Exactly, something like this^ or like i gave you.

I would recomend you call her instead of texting her, as this will put you ahead of the countless chumps who just text her, specially when asking her out.

Only thing i disagree with^ but im in college so im experienced in making texting optimal for MY situations/plates....see the thing is your assuming he can get her on the phone. Girls are becoming worse and worse with the phone and never pick up unless their attracted to the guy. Plus too many guys will fuk up on the phone and make it awkward....the cons just outweight the pros for me.

 

[CaConfused]

Agree. I think people are more and more getting more jarred by calls now. It just has more risk.

Should I text her back now? She emailed at 1p with her number. It's now 3:30

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Should I text her back now? She emailed at 1p with her number. It's now 3:30

Bro your too caught up in the "rules" and I can tell you don't trust yourself at all with what your doing. You need to develop some confidence.

To answer your question, yes its fine if you text her back now, its not like waiting a specific amount of time is going to suddenly make her interest sky-rocket.

I like GOL's line about the curfew, that's money and I might have to steal that one for myself! haha

The point is to show her you are a confident guy and you go after what you want.

You have her somewhat interested, don't get discouraged.








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[plate's_empty]

I asked girl for drinks tomorrow. She shows heavy interest (online date). This is her response. How and when should I respond? It's annoying she didn't offer an alternative, but she obviously is interested since she responded with a phone number. Thanks!

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I won't make it tomorrow because I volunteer every Tuesday afternoon helping kids with disabilities ride horses. I won't be finished until 8ish in [place 30 minutes away].
I'm about to run out the door to beat the heat by the pool.
Feel free to text or call me at xxxxxxxxx.
Stay cool,
xxxx

Other than thowing out other days that would work for her, you got the next best response...or even a better one. You asked her one day in advance, the fact that she is busy is a green flag. The fact that she gave you a detailed reasoning is an even greener flag, and the fact that she's helping out kids with disabilities (as long as that's not BS and, in fact, that's really the day of her weekly gangbang) is as green a flag as they come. Plus she was also qualifying herself to you....awesome. And she signs off with her number.

You're money.

Like the other posters said. "what days are you free this week for a drink? Before your curfew of 8:30 of course." (yes, great line, used it before, thanks for the reminder.)

I'd call her though. Shows confidence and she might have a full plate so texting would start to get annoying with trying to figure out a good time you both of you are available.

 

[VladPatton]

I wouldn't use the word "curfew", but "schedule":

"I understand you have a schedule. What days work for you? Let me know."

And that's all. Keep it simple, don't invest too much mental energy and see where it takes you.

Good luck!

 

[CaConfused]

I wouldn't use the word "curfew", but "schedule":

"I understand you have a schedule. What days work for you? Let me know."

And that's all. Keep it simple, don't invest too much mental energy and see where it takes you.

Good luck!

I did precisely that. THanks guys. I'll let you know the outcome.

 

[CaConfused]

Well that was quick: Her response

Wednesday after 8:30 (I can't, I have another date)
Friday (Do I actually give her a weekend day)
or Sunday (I fly out at 5pm for LA for a WEEK)

What do you recommend? Seems my only options are:

- Bite bullet, give her my Friday
- Meet her for brunch or something (is that lame?) on Sunday. Maybe Putt Putt?

Thoughts?

 

[CaConfused]

Well that was quick: Her response

Wednesday after 8:30 (I can't, I have another date)
Friday (Do I actually give her a weekend day)
or Sunday (I fly out at 5pm for LA for a WEEK)

What do you recommend? Seems my only options are:

- Bite bullet, give her my Friday
- Meet her for brunch or something (is that lame?) on Sunday. Maybe Putt Putt?

Thoughts?

Or how about Friday - Happy Hour drinks, and come up with a reason I have to cut it off around 8-8:30

 

[plate's_empty]

Or how about Friday - Happy Hour drinks, and come up with a reason I have to cut it off around 8-8:30

I like this one. If you have plans set up with friends afterwards just tell her that. And if you guys really hit it off and she's down you can bring her with. Some posters are anti-bring around friends till you close the deal. But if they're fun and won't salt or hate then fvck it, that's what I'd do.