"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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how do I respond to her?

ckdon2

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Agree. I've done the same thing back when with a young girl, all this advice and game playing messes with you head, Trying to protect your ego while still trying to score...doesn't work. Just be straightforward, if she's in, she's in, if not, move on.

Texting isn't a great way to game play either, can't see body language, emotions, reactions, should only be used for setting up a time to meet.
Gonna do my best to play no more games with her. And since she is depressed I think I have the opportunities to get closer to her by being there for her like she keeps like me that she needs someone to be there for her in times of depression, etc. It wasn't so much for my ego, but I got pretty defensive on 2 accounts with her a while back and that didn't end up well. She still came back to me though, despite all the neglect I've been giving her. Or maybe it was ego, but I wasn't aware. Either way, no more games, going to be very straight forward, with messages, calls, meetings, kino and the rest.


As for texting, well, she texts me a LOT. For every 1 message I send, she sends back 5-8 sometimes breaking messages down sometimes just writing about different topics in different messages. And I still respond with 1-2. I try to keep it minimal, but because she's texting me all the time (morning, daytime, night and even past midnight) I have to usually respond here and there or else she will think I am ignoring her even more (remember, I've already neglected her a lot. In fact, a while back she even asked me "why do you ignore me?:/ " when I didn't respond to her texts for several days, I think it was 5 days.

My text game is pretty good, I have her laughing even through texts (she tells me she was drinking something and my message caused her to laugh and it went thru her nose etc, or how her family is looking at her laughing hysterically looking at a phone, etc).

In person, she acts so alive to everything I say or do.

marmel75 said:
When Thomas Edison invented the lightbulb someone asked him "How did it feel to fail 10,000 times?" He replied "I never failed, I simply found 10,000 ways that didn't work."

Moral of the story is too many people give up before finding out what works.
Great story man. Definitely keep it in my head.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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your text game is lame and fragmented and you sound crazy and lonely and depressed... and also she doe snot like you thats why she is refusing to play along with your attempts at being witty.... NEXT
 

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sounds a lot like cat string theory. at some point you have to let her get the string. you are playing a lot of unnessasary games. if her attraction and interest levels for you are high why play games when you can just make your move and get laid. if you dont make your move she is going to put 2 and 2 together and just assume you are full of crap. if that happens nothing you can do to recover. she will see you as incongruent. all bark and no bite. all talk and no action. she will just lose interest and go cold. and if she is as hot as you say she is there are plenty of guys that she's meeting every day that she can replace you with. bottom line is stop giving her blue balls and make your move. learn when to turn off your game.
 

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your text game is lame and fragmented and you sound crazy and lonely and depressed... and also she doe snot like you thats why she is refusing to play along with your attempts at being witty.... NEXT

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why next someone who shows interest ? read CK's other topic, the girl clearly displays interest and gives him IOIs
 
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