How do I respond to her sh!t test?

[El Payaso]

She asked me if she can come over tonight. I said "Come over if you want." Few minutes later she said "Do you want me to?"

Obviously, she's seeking validation from me and I do not in any way want to give it to her. Yes, I know it might be such a stupid, trivial thing...

What should I reply back to her? I have something in mind but I just wanted to seek some general counsel. Thanks.

 

[Jaylan]

Jeezus Christ. This isnt a sh!t test...and I dont even really believe in the term. I dont think of my interactions that way. Either me and her are into it or we arent. Anyways, I swear some of you guys try to play games more than women. If she asked if she can come over, you should just say "yeah sure...what time were you thinkin?"

You started this with the "come over if you want" comment. Wouldnt you assume a girl wasnt all that into you if she responded to you like that? You gave a lame indifferent response. Wouldnt you want a girl to sound more like she wants you to come over? Telling a girl "come over if you want" doesnt convey any more interest in her than if she said it to you.

Just reply with something silly "mhmm, when were you thinking?"

Smh. Too many guys think they have to be the exact opposite of the over-eager guy...so they think indifference will always work on a girl. You dont wanna be over-eager, but indifference isnt attractive either. You have to obviously show the girl that you desire her company, but also have it be known that you dont always need it.

 

[SmooveMooves]

"Well, unless you want to miss out on greatness"

Or

"Yup"

You set yourself up for that one by saying: "Come over, IF YOU WANT"

You shouldve left the "if you want" part out.

For future reference, if you're going to ask a female for something Overtly , then make it a command.

A simple "Come over." Would've sufficed.

And remember bro, validation isn't always bad, its a woman's natural instinct to desire it.

It's when men over validate when it becomes a problem.

Validating a b1tch every now and then is okay.


As with anything, Moderation is key.

And as for you Jaylan, chill, relax, everybody's "playing games" because dating, as is life, is one big game.

Gotta make the moves that going to benefit you and your goals, I know you've heard the quote "life is like a game of chess"

However, I do get a fraction of your point.

Don't over analyze broGod

 

[El Payaso]

It sounds to me like she is seeking sex from you. And you gave her the shyt test, not the other way around. If you don't want to bang her, then you're on the right track.

She was seeking sex from me. You're right, I did give her the sh!t test because I couldn't really care less if she came over or not.

Anyway, I didn't respond and 30 minutes later, she said "I'm coming over. Please, don't fall asleep."