Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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viking22

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I had a first date with a girl at the weekend....just coffee and conversation for an hour or so. A couple of hours after the date she texted me saying "Nice to meet you".

So a couple days later I text her saying "Hey. I enjoyed meeting you too. Im busy this week but lets get together sometime this weekend".

She replied very quickly but completely ignored my suggestion of meeting again. Her text was "Hey. Nice to see you too. Have a nice tuesday afternoon".

Im not really sure what to read into this. Is she being deliberately evasive because she doesn't want to see me again? Or is she playing a bit hard to get.

Usually if a girl is not interested she either tells me, makes an excuse why she can't meet, or just ignores the text.

I was thinking of waiting a few days and then asking her out more directly. But Im worried this will seem a bit pushy
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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WalkingStick

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ask her more directly in a couple days. If she doesnt like you, you can't hurt things anyway. If she doesnt go for it, move on.
 

Kevin Feng

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The problem lies within your attitude, you're too afraid of "upsetting" her. If there's one thing I've learned in pick up, it's to be selfish when it comes to gaming women. You need go to in and take what you want, now I'm not saying be rude or be a prick, but you REALLY NEED to be assertive.

Don't be afraid of upsetting the girl. When it comes to gaming a girl, cold approach especially, it's extremely important to be persistent. Persistence always pays off. There's a difference between being persistent and dominant and being needy.

Use the rule of 3, invite her out three times, if she flakes or turns you down three times, throw in the towel.

Asian Playboy posted an article on dominance a while ago, I think you'll find it fitting your situation.

http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/2006/10/sexual-identity-less-talk-more-sex.html
 

COD

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OR ............did U ever think it was your TEXT. Texting is yet another way to build rapport, attraction, etc.

U NEED TO text flirt better!!!!!!!!

simple...........dont complicate it!!!!!!!
 

TheBucketOfTruth

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I don't see this going anywhere. When I read "Nice to meet you," I saw it as "Nice to meet you, but you won't be seeing me again." The fact that she ignored your asking her to meet up again just further supports this.

Just another thread showing that texting blows. She's just letting you down easy. It would have been much more obvious had you been on the phone.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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