How do I reply? In a limbo

[sosumba]

Hi,
There is this girl I met when traveling back home. I wrote a suggestion that we could meet (first date) for today at a certain time in the evening and location since her studies start soon. Then she wrote back and thanked me for the invite and that she had work today and said that if she finishes early so then "why not".

The question is how do I reply to this so that I know more precise in advance so that I am not in a limbo and can do other things? Or is this just a way for her to saya soft no or something? I would say that interest level this girl has in me is above medium.

All comments and critique are welcome.

 

[dude99]

Hi,
There is this girl I met when traveling back home. I wrote a suggestion that we could meet (first date) for today at a certain time in the evening and location since her studies start soon. Then she wrote back and thanked me for the invite and that she had work today and said that if she finishes early so then "why not".

The question is how do I reply to this so that I know more precise in advance so that I am not in a limbo and can do other things? Or is this just a way for her to saya soft no or something? I would say that interest level this girl has in me is above medium.

All comments and critique are welcome.

She could be waiting for a better offer or she could just not want to confirm. Chicks like to be difficult sometimes but unless it is a confirmation to the plans you suggested with a solid yes, and no other word salad after (yes if i am not busy, yes if i get off work early, yes if it's a full moon etc,) consider plans NOT MADE, and don't wait around for her.

Go make other plans. Do your thing. If she reaches out an hour of 10 minutes before you two are supposed to have gotten together, you reply with :

"Sorry didn't hear anything concrete from you and my schedule filled up. How about next Week wednesday at 8pm at blah blah blah place."

If she does the same thing again, you next.

 

[Stuffnu]

Did you reach out and try to schedule a date on the same day?
It’s okay for her to be busy with no notice.
Either way, same rule applies and withdraw the offer.
“No worries, why don’t we reschedule for another day” and leave it at that.
If she’s interested, she’ll make an effort to lock it down.

 

[RobbyDog]

Did you reach out and try to schedule a date on the same day?
It’s okay for her to be busy with no notice.
Either way, same rule applies and withdraw the offer.
“No worries, why don’t we reschedule for another day” and leave it at that.
If she’s interested, she’ll make an effort to lock it down.

Exactly this. You should be giving at least a few days notice. If she replies with anything other than a solid YES, you say “why don’t we do it some other time, when you are more sure of your schedule.” And leave it.

 

[Dash Riprock]

Assume she has to work, as people do, until you have reason to believe otherwise. My reply would be, "Ok, no worries." If you want to pursue her (not chase), wait a few days and ask her when she's free because there's this cool (event, whatever) you want to check out. If she keeps giving you excuses, THEN cut her and move on. Guys have to make the first move and **have a plan** (in advance) and sometimes their schedule doesn't sync with yours. That's life.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

Triple book with three different girls op, so you don´t even worry about this stuff.

 

[RickTheToad]

Hi,
There is this girl I met when traveling back home. I wrote a suggestion that we could meet (first date) for today at a certain time in the evening and location since her studies start soon. Then she wrote back and thanked me for the invite and that she had work today and said that if she finishes early so then "why not".

The question is how do I reply to this so that I know more precise in advance so that I am not in a limbo and can do other things? Or is this just a way for her to saya soft no or something? I would say that interest level this girl has in me is above medium.

All comments and critique are welcome.

Simple. Hit her up, let's get a drink. Love to see you again. Let's meet at Rick's Tavern on SoSuave St at 7pm tonight. Females love spur of the moment stuff. Proceed from there. If she's interested, she'll say yes. If not, she'll have an excuse. Females move mountains for a dude they like.