"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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how do I properly respond to this?

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fb message from girl said:
Hey,

I didn't mean for it to get so awkward after our coffee date, and for the record, I do like you. You're one of the few guys I've met with something interesting to say. We should chill again soon! Less awkwardness this time! hahaha
The history is that we ****ed on first date and I couldn't get off for some reason or another. After seeing her with some new guy at a party literally two days after we ****ed and her flaking on me, I tell her we should just be friends a few days later and she agrees. I makeout with a new girl in front of her at a party the following weekend, and as I'm doing this, she walks by and pinches my ass. Later on, she kisses me on the cheek when I'm talking to my male friend and I find out her ex knows of me.

I think she's pulling some nonsense. This feels entirely like I was second best to whatever other guy she had, so accepting her offer to start again seems like I'm starting from a subordinate position.

I want to **** with this girl's brains and have sex with her a few more times. I do not have the physical advantage against her other lovers, they're all way better looking than me. What I have at my disposal is the capability to make her feel very, very emotional. Provided that she is sexually attracted to me, you can take the coldest, most detached girl and I can get her to start having feelings for me when we talk after sex a few times. What I do is come off as the perfect, disney boyfriend that girls in this society want but is completely unrealistic. Mix that with periods of ignoring her completely, and she'll fall in love. At that point, I want to disappear and have sex with her friends.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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sounds like her thetan levels are a little low. elevate her cosmic force by making her *** again and again.

ps you *** this time? if she cant make you ***, then drop her. 100%.
 

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Either drop her or turn her into a FB. Keep spinning more plates though for sure or else this will mess with your head, a lot.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Oh, I'm ****ing another girl concurrently. I might get a threesome with two new girls this weekend.
 
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hmm, interesting, before anyone else gets a chance to give you advice you already have the problem solved.

Just keep doing what your doing, try not to get caught up with this girl because it doesn't sound like it could go any further(with the exception of a threesome). Good **** man.
 

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Ran into the same issue I had with this girl initially this weekend. After fucking her a few times last week, I see her at mutual friend's party last Saturday. Here she is once again treating me like we've never done anything by giving me that kind of hug you give where you use your shoulder to block someone from coming closer to you. We talk for a little while and then she avoids me for the rest of the party.

Last time I saw her, she was talking to the same good-looking, tall guy she had come to parties with twice before last month. Before she had been talking to that guy, my friend claims he overheard her saying "There aren't any guys attractive enough to fuck at this party!" to someone and my friend laughed in her face (LOL, good friend).

We get along pretty well, better than I've gotten along with most women that are down to have sex with me. My strategy, if you want to even call it that, will be to avoid this girl in the future. The plan is to totally ignore her outside of saying 'hi' if I see her at a party. She clearly gets something from me, I don't know what it is, but there's something that she keeps coming back for. It isn't my looks obviously because if it was, she'd happy to be around me in front of her friends. If you guys have any alternatives, let me know.

Luckily, I have a girl about as pretty as her that obviously wants a relationship with me. Her conversations don't appeal to me nearly as much, but whatever. At least she isn't a neurotic scientologist.
 
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Yeah she's starting to sound like she is just using you until something better comes along(wich probably already has). Since its just a sexual relationship she doesn't have anything invested in you.

Since i believe she has moved on, what i would advise you to do is don't even give her a hug, if she says hi, then say the same and don't say anything after that. Just don't feed her ego man. And hey if you don't get along with this new girl then just move on.
 

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Yeah, my ex-girlfriend is back in play and now looks like a model instead of a really pretty lesbian because she grew her hair long and finally started wearing makeup. I'll work this into making organic slut (the girl this thread is about) nervous, haha.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Thundernuts

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blueline said:
Yeah, my ex-girlfriend is back in play and now looks like a model instead of a really pretty lesbian because she grew her hair long and finally started wearing makeup. I'll work this into making organic slut (the girl this thread is about) nervous, haha.
Yeah, you could do that. I mean im a firm believer of never passing up a good thing, but you need to learn when to throw in the towel and move on with women. Not saying that your being stupid but try and keep that in mind, the more time you spend focusing on this girl is time you could be putting to better use somewhere else.
 
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