How do i play this?

[DonDraper7]

Damn, it's been a year since i was last on SoSuave, hope all is well dudes!

Anyhow, i met this girl Friday night in the gym (seen her 2 times before but never spoke to her), she approached me and asked to help her with some exercise. We talked, teased each other a little bit and exchanged numbers and instagram acc before i finished my workout and went home. She seemed receptive to me, checking me out a bunch of times etc.

Here's the problem: i made the mistake of not texting her Sunday or something like that and set up a date, because i wanted to build some more rapport in the gym when i see her again. Well i haven't seen her in there since Friday, and i always see the same fvcking people. If i don't see her tommorow (Wednesday) i'll just text her and ask her out in in the first 4-5 messages.

Is this the right course of action? I'm asking because i'm starting to overthink it with the rapport ****. I wanted to build a rapport first because it's not a big gym and most people know each other on some level so i don't seem like a creeper but **** it if i wait any longer she's long gone.

 

[marmel75]

Text her whenever you want to. You don't need to build rapport at the gym. She gave you her number.

If you see her at the gym again just let her know you've been busy and you haven't forgot about her.

Or better yet if you see her at the gym again try and take her on an insta-date after you workout.

I know what you mean tho...I used to overthink things like this too..in the end if the woman likes you it won't matter and if she doesn't it won't matter either.

 

[DonDraper7]

Text her whenever you want to. You don't need to build rapport at the gym. She gave you her number.

If you see her at the gym again just let her know you've been busy and you haven't forgot about her.

Or better yet if you see her at the gym again try and take her on an insta-date after you workout.

I know what you mean tho...I used to overthink things like this too..in the end if the woman likes you it won't matter and if she doesn't it won't matter either.

True, that's why i said i'm overthinking it. Usually i just text whenever i feel like it, but i wanted to play it "cool" because of othere people. Fvck that.

Ohhh insta-date after workout is a good one! I never even thought about it and i know for a fact she and i live close to each other (like a 10 minute ride). Thanks man, appreciate it !

 

[Daniel_March]

Hello!

First of all great job on having fun interacting with her and walking away with her phone number. Truth be told - the fact the you have the digits means that she is comfortable enough with you having some of her private information. You have admitted yourself that you may be overthinking things - when you say that chances are you are. Behaviour can be predicted to a degree, there could be life circumstances like mood, health and business that would affect her response to your texts/phone call. Don't worry too much about how many "minutes, hours or days" before you contact her. In the end of the day if she likes you - she will get back to you. Just don't over invest in your conversations, keep it cool but not cold. Hope this helps, however based on what you have previously said it seems that you already have it all figured out.

 

[Glassguy]

Dont overthink this because when you do, you are going to come across as weird or retarded with women.

"Hey its Don from the gym. I am thinking about grabbing drinks Thursday night around 8 at ______. Lets meet up if you're free."

Thats it. Very short and simple.

 

[DonDraper7]

Hello!

First of all great job on having fun interacting with her and walking away with her phone number. Truth be told - the fact the you have the digits means that she is comfortable enough with you having some of her private information. You have admitted yourself that you may be overthinking things - when you say that chances are you are. Behaviour can be predicted to a degree, there could be life circumstances like mood, health and business that would affect her response to your texts/phone call. Don't worry too much about how many "minutes, hours or days" before you contact her. In the end of the day if she likes you - she will get back to you. Just don't over invest in your conversations, keep it cool but not cold. Hope this helps, however based on what you have previously said it seems that you already have it all figured out.

Dont overthink this because when you do, you are going to come across as weird or retarded with women.

"Hey its Don from the gym. I am thinking about grabbing drinks Thursday night around 8 at ______. Lets meet up if you're free."

Thats it. Very short and simple.

Appreciate it guys. Little update: didn't see her tonight at the gym so i sent her a message "Hey this is Don from the gym, we should grab some drinks Saturday night around 7", she replied literally "What the hell took you so long to message me?? Sounds perfect" so yeah...either she is bat shvit crazy or her interest is very high lol. Either way it workout out, cheers for the advices

 

[marmel75]

Appreciate it guys. Little update: didn't see her tonight at the gym so i sent her a message "Hey this is Don from the gym, we should grab some drinks Saturday night around 7", she replied literally "What the hell took you so long to message me?? Sounds perfect" so yeah...either she is bat shvit crazy or her interest is very high lol. Either way it workout out, cheers for the advices

Yeah, see. Now you got her interest picqued even higher because she thinks you are different from all these other guys she has dealt with---those guys probably texted her immediately, etc...

Use this to your advantage, draw her in deeper in person and strike like a viper.

 

[DonDraper7]

Yeah, see. Now you got her interest picqued even higher because she thinks you are different from all these other guys she has dealt with---those guys probably texted her immediately, etc...

Use this to your advantage, draw her in deeper in person and strike like a viper.

Every day you learn more and improve. I will do exactly what you said bro.

 

[Trump]

Damn, it's been a year since i was last on SoSuave, hope all is well dudes!

Anyhow, i met this girl Friday night in the gym (seen her 2 times before but never spoke to her), she approached me and asked to help her with some exercise. We talked, teased each other a little bit and exchanged numbers and instagram acc before i finished my workout and went home.

You should have asked her out right there!

Here's the problem: i made the mistake of not texting her Sunday or something like that and set up a date, because i wanted to build some more rapport in the gym when i see her again. Well i haven't seen her in there since Friday, and i always see the same fvcking people. If i don't see her tommorow (Wednesday) i'll just text her and ask her out in in the first 4-5 messages. Is this the right course of action?

Nope.

You'll text her in 24 hours and ask her for a date in another 72 hours after 5 text messages?

Come on bro, she is already married and pregnant by that time. Text her now and ask her now. What
if she never ever shows up at the gym ever again?

I'm asking because i'm starting to overthink it with the rapport ****. I wanted to build a rapport first because it's not a big gym and most people know each other on some level so i don't seem like a creeper but **** it if i wait any longer she's long gone.

Guys remember, you have to act QUICKLY with a girl. ANY interaction you have is a chance to ask her out. Don't wait until next time so she is more comfortable. She wants to have sex, she doesn't care about comfort.

2 weeks ago a married friend gave me a number of a single girl through his wife. He had never met her. I asked her out in 2 text messages and I had NEVER SEEN HER BEFORE, and she said YES. And she was good looking.

Move fast men.

 

[narcissist]

You should have asked her out right there!



Nope.

You'll text her in 24 hours and ask her for a date in another 72 hours after 5 text messages?

Come on bro, she is already married and pregnant by that time. Text her now and ask her now. What
if she never ever shows up at the gym ever again?



Guys remember, you have to act QUICKLY with a girl. ANY interaction you have is a chance to ask her out. Don't wait until next time so she is more comfortable. She wants to have sex, she doesn't care about comfort.

2 weeks ago a married friend gave me a number of a single girl through his wife. He had never met her. I asked her out in 2 text messages and I had NEVER SEEN HER BEFORE, and she said YES. And she was good looking.

Move fast men.

Agreed. The whole "wait it out" game is weak as hell. Men with confidence text right away because you have hopefully already let her know that you want her. You just have to play the frame right in the initial interaction.

 

[MrJack]

Fuark that pu$$y