how do i play this???

[matt428carr]

hey guys...have a question i need some help with....

so i met this chick on POF....sent a few emails back and fourth...kept it light not to show too much intrest...gave me her # without me asking...

so we talk on the phone for an hour(i know,my bad)and she seems pretty interested.so we text a bit back and forth as well over the next few days(keeping it to a minimum to not show too much intrest)and she invites me to come see her at work(shes a waitress).so i go down there and shes all cool with me,eating off my plate,sitting down and having a good time.she says shell call me when she gets out of work...

no call....

now i dont call or text her at all....the next day she text me like nothing ever happened...saying whats up and stuff...i play it cool,never say a word about it(hey im a busy dj right?...a couple more days go by...i tell her that im free tonight and want to see her...she says she cant but shell call me the next day...

bet you can figure it out...

so i see her last night(out with my buddies at her place of work...we go there sometimes)and i approach and say hi,chat very briefly and i eject to my friends....never mention once about her flakyness...she never comes by to say hi to us...so were leaving and on the way out i say "see ya" and she grabs my hand with a big pouty lip...i just smile and keep walkin....


so whats the deal here?should i just tell her to beat it?did i play this right?should i cut all contact till she contacts me?ive been really good about that to this point...i am back new to the game and workin hard on dumping my AFC mentality...

come on guys help a brother out here....

 

[Scars]

Looks like you're doing everything right. Just keep the busy mentality in your head, and be completely unreactive to her bullsh!t. It sounds like it was just a test, and so far you're passing. The solution here is to start spinning more plates. Don't go out of your way to talk to her, if you see her again just do exactly like how you did. Don't ignore the fact that she is there just continue being friendly. If she flakes then shrug it off, you're going to have other plates so who gives a fvck? Stay busy, keep the confident frame and start seeing other chicks and watch this girls IL sky rocket.

 

[matt428carr]

thanks for the advice....i definately need to spin more plates...