Hey all! I used to be registered under another account, which for some reason has had it's posting privleges disabled for whatever reason. Anyhow, it's really been a while. Havn't been here in about 2 years. What can I say, I havn't needed you guys, the advice on this site was just too good the first time around. 
Anyway, what finally brings me back around other than nostalgic reasons is, yup, you guessed it, a girl. Since I've gone on hiatus, I havn't really had to much trouble with girls, dating and all that hoopla and still don't to this day (which I have my fellow DJs to thank for). However, I've come upon a situation that I thought I might share to possibly get some advice from some who may or may not have had a similar experience. So the story goes as follows:
There's this girl who I am very good friends with that I've always been attracted to (both physically and personality wise), but I have never really made a move because her boyfriend was a work buddy of mine and blah blah blah, bros before hoes and all that jazz. They wound up breaking up a few months ago (not the most pleasant of break ups) and she basically got me in the divorce. After this whole event, we started hanging out on a regular basis. At this point I didn't try to move on her either, I was simply being a friend and just hanging out and having a good time. I know what you're all thinking, "WTF is wrong with you!", but I was never hard up on her and in all honesty it didn't even cross my mind... at first. Eventually, when our "get-togethers" became more frequent I began noticing a lot of subtle "signs". She was always really excited to see me, always touchy-feely, constant "I'm so happy you came", etcetera and so forth. But then the next day she would be rather indifferent. Not being a fan of flaky girls I decided to test the waters before jumping right in. We wen't out on a few "friendly" dates. I took her out for drinks, out to the club, she took me out for lunch (a reschedule after she missed a dinner date). During all these she was always giving off "that vibe", but then whenever we would go out with other people, she'd just kind of became a little more distant. This flip-flopped around for a little while and eventually I got tired of guessing and walked away. I could have just went for it and found out for sure, but I figured it'd be best just to stay friends and move on to better and bigger things.
Fast-forward to the present. Due to busy schedules of both parties, we havn't seen each other that often in past months. Until recently where we've been hanging out more frequently again. And it wound up starting to be more of the same. Privately I get very "positive" signals (intriguing conversations full of kino, "pleasant" little txt msgs), but around other friends, not so much. But this time, I went the other way. I got sick of playing games and asked her out. So to make a long story even longer, we're going out this weekend.
Now here is where I ask for advice (finally ). I've taken plenty of girls out, but not in the "traditional" romantic date sense. This time I am going for that. The triple D; Dinner, Drinks, and Dancing. What I'm asking from you guys is any ideas to keep that "friendly date" vibe out. Considering we've pretty much done all of these at different intervals in the past, I gotta try to be original about it. I want to get that "traditional" date point across without being too cheesy or cliche. I figured I'd start out the night with the good ol' single flower at her doorstep just for fun (I know, I know, cheesy and cliche. What a hypocrit I am ). I was going to take her to a nice Italian restaurant, then to some type of lounge for some drinks, and finish off at a classy club to shake some booty.
A few issues that I'm concerned with: Conversation topics. I'm not exactly getting to know this girl, we're pretty well familiar with each other. I kind of want to avoid friendly banter. Also, just not sure how I should go about a k close, if at all. I don't want to pull it at her door at the end of the night, but I'm gonna need some decent intimate conversations during the night to get her vibing so I can find a window to go for it.
Anyway, that's it. Any suggestions? I'm sure it's the little things that'll count.
P.S. It's good to be back fellas.
Anyway, what finally brings me back around other than nostalgic reasons is, yup, you guessed it, a girl. Since I've gone on hiatus, I havn't really had to much trouble with girls, dating and all that hoopla and still don't to this day (which I have my fellow DJs to thank for). However, I've come upon a situation that I thought I might share to possibly get some advice from some who may or may not have had a similar experience. So the story goes as follows:
There's this girl who I am very good friends with that I've always been attracted to (both physically and personality wise), but I have never really made a move because her boyfriend was a work buddy of mine and blah blah blah, bros before hoes and all that jazz. They wound up breaking up a few months ago (not the most pleasant of break ups) and she basically got me in the divorce. After this whole event, we started hanging out on a regular basis. At this point I didn't try to move on her either, I was simply being a friend and just hanging out and having a good time. I know what you're all thinking, "WTF is wrong with you!", but I was never hard up on her and in all honesty it didn't even cross my mind... at first. Eventually, when our "get-togethers" became more frequent I began noticing a lot of subtle "signs". She was always really excited to see me, always touchy-feely, constant "I'm so happy you came", etcetera and so forth. But then the next day she would be rather indifferent. Not being a fan of flaky girls I decided to test the waters before jumping right in. We wen't out on a few "friendly" dates. I took her out for drinks, out to the club, she took me out for lunch (a reschedule after she missed a dinner date). During all these she was always giving off "that vibe", but then whenever we would go out with other people, she'd just kind of became a little more distant. This flip-flopped around for a little while and eventually I got tired of guessing and walked away. I could have just went for it and found out for sure, but I figured it'd be best just to stay friends and move on to better and bigger things.
Fast-forward to the present. Due to busy schedules of both parties, we havn't seen each other that often in past months. Until recently where we've been hanging out more frequently again. And it wound up starting to be more of the same. Privately I get very "positive" signals (intriguing conversations full of kino, "pleasant" little txt msgs), but around other friends, not so much. But this time, I went the other way. I got sick of playing games and asked her out. So to make a long story even longer, we're going out this weekend.
Now here is where I ask for advice (finally
). I've taken plenty of girls out, but not in the "traditional" romantic date sense. This time I am going for that. The triple D; Dinner, Drinks, and Dancing. What I'm asking from you guys is any ideas to keep that "friendly date" vibe out. Considering we've pretty much done all of these at different intervals in the past, I gotta try to be original about it. I want to get that "traditional" date point across without being too cheesy or cliche. I figured I'd start out the night with the good ol' single flower at her doorstep just for fun (I know, I know, cheesy and cliche. What a hypocrit I am ). I was going to take her to a nice Italian restaurant, then to some type of lounge for some drinks, and finish off at a classy club to shake some booty.A few issues that I'm concerned with: Conversation topics. I'm not exactly getting to know this girl, we're pretty well familiar with each other. I kind of want to avoid friendly banter. Also, just not sure how I should go about a k close, if at all. I don't want to pull it at her door at the end of the night, but I'm gonna need some decent intimate conversations during the night to get her vibing so I can find a window to go for it.
Anyway, that's it. Any suggestions? I'm sure it's the little things that'll count.
P.S. It's good to be back fellas.
