"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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how do I move up the management ladder?

picard

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how do I move up the management ladder? it is occupied by alot of women nowadays. They won't be going anywhere.

do you have strategies for moving up the ladder?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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darkstarrr

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Moving up the management ladder or the executive ladder in general? Here's how I did it.

1. Move closer to work so you can over power your competition (more time, more sleep, short commute, etc)

2. Dress for the job you want not the one you have. Dress slightly better than your piers. Take extra good care of your appearance. Look handsome. Look attractive. Be confident. People will take you more seriously.

3. Be professional - customer service is the key to seperating the boys from the men in business.

4. Be efficient with your time. For example, at my job there is this guy who has been there 10 years. I've been there only 1. I work more efficiently than him to the point where I can accomplish twice hat he does in any given day and its insulting almost.

5. Be eager to take on more work, new projects, etc. Keep your eye out for little ways where you can voice your opinion in a way that is not indicative of you have a complex of needed to voice it or validation of your voice. Working harder and having more work might seem unfair to some but it will pass the time quicker, make you feel more satisfied at the end of the day (for once I use that expression where it really belongs ;) ), you will learn more, and over time you will be recognized as superior to your collegues.

6. Start using the terms business continuity and efficiency.

Important reminder: even if you do not move up that ladder in your current position you will be more prepared for taking the next step in your life when another opportunity comes around or when you go looking for one. The confidence that you will exude when in new interviews (as a result of the feeling of satisfaction that you will have earned day in and day out in your previous job) cannot be faked.

Think about it this way. If you are The Man and you see through his action and work ethic that you have a Manny Ramirez on the bench are you going to put him in once in a while or are you going to prioritize him, make him a foundation of your lineup, and utilize him to the best advantage of the organization? Start sending work relatd emails on the weekends and at funny hours when the office is closed. Don't go overboard or else it will seem obvious. Keep them mostly short and to the point.

Let me know if you would like more specifics/examples on anything I just said.

Good luck.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Become knowledgeable in the area you want. Work hard and show them you got what it takes.

What is your occupation by the way?
 
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