"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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How do I make an approach natural?

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mejorimposible said:
whats the point of aproaching girls you dont like? i mean, ok its for practice, but in the end you dont want to **** her, and you use the same routine as if you would, is that fair?
ammmm...I think I would fck just about 70 percent of the girls out there man... i.e. as long as their not fat, i'll hit it.. just imagine, trimmed p.ussy with a thong, who gives a sh.it, if you dont like her face put a pillow over it..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Marlimus said:
"I don't usually talk to strangers, but you don't look dangerous so I'll make an exception in your case"

"I'm serious. In this day and age, a guy has to protect himself. You wouldn't take advantage of me in my vulnerable emotional state, would you?"

Run a search on my last field report titled for further details, it should be FIELD REPORT #16 OR #17.
Hahaha, I like those. ok, thanks, I'll search for em.
 

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considering this still seems to be a problem for you. I will add a bump and a solution.

1.) Read the DJB

2.) Try the DJ Bootcamp

3.) Practice it

4.) Don't worry about getting a girlfriend. Just enjoy it for the moment

5.) Learn to talk about fun stuff like travel, funny stories, and life experiences.

6.) Just relax

7.) Do it over and over and over again.

8.) Go out there.

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The solution is simple and surprisingly effective: obtain a horny dog.

Fetch fido.
 

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Dark Haired Alpha said:
OK, I have done a few approaches in my life already, but I don't really seem to be able to make the approach seem natural, it's always kind of awkward, aspecially when I'm stopping girls on the street.

The question is simple - how do I make an approach natural?

Thanks :cool:
You have to wait for an opportunity and then, within a few seconds, react to it so it "just happens". The opportunity can be any event, even her just making eye contact.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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well im glad were talking about this because ,i find that cold approches do not work ,and that goes for more than just girls ,but getting a new job as well.
see i have the confidence to go up to an person and and try to know them ,

but like you said it just not a natural way of doing things ,and with the girls they are not used to meeting guys that just come up and meet them out of the blue ,i know becuse ive did a few myself and seen thier expression on thier face as if they are stunned .which in turn make me feel like an ass.:mad:
 

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badgm's57 said:
i know becuse ive did a few myself
it takes a bunch of times before you start to get good results. Like anything it just takes practice.:)
 

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here,

i think the solution really is EXPERIENCE. you can study playing guitar and know all the licks and stuff. but you're asking HOW TO DO IT WELL... well, for guitar and pickups, it does indeed seem like the only way you can do it smoothly and seemingly effortlessly is to simply do it again and again and again.

i know, that's a terrifying prospect for me too.... but you can't really get comfortable with doing something until you end up getting comfortable with it!

luck

delta
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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