How do I limit my emotion

[Gammergq]

My biggest problem is I get caught up in the emotion of liking a girl I take them to serious and I display my interest in an intense manner how do I stop this?

 

[Pimp101]

Theres no easy trick to this. The only way to do it is to live for your passions and not pvssy. Its that inner game people talk about. Its about becoming more mature in your outlook on life. Its also critical that you have a lot of self value - not in the egotistical sense but in the sense that you should love and respect yourself as a person. One has to be completely honest with themselves to get these attributes. Don't bother looking to people around you for help with this, save for truly exceptional individuals. Most people never take this path in life. Can I ask how old you are?

 

[Gammergq]

Sure I am 23.

 

[iqqi]

1. Don't put all of your eggs in one basket
2. Realize there may be something wrong with you if you are "falling" for chicks too easy. Identify problem, and then work on it.
3. Have other interests besides punani and woman.
4. Keep a journal of all of your ONE-itis's. I swear, after 3-4 of the same sob sh!t stories, you will realize you are sounding like a broken record, and you will be forced to either jump off of a building, or change.

Let me know if you need more, I can come up with 5, 6, and 7.

 

[Pimp101]

Then we're pretty much in the same boat. The Road Less Travelled by Scott Peck helped me a hell of a lot. He gets a little evangelical towards the end which isn't for everyone but the first half of the book is pure gold. Its the only book I had a hard time reading, like go over a few pages then think hard about whats being said. It was like talking to a shrink.

From what I've gathered so far, whenever we try hard to fill a void in our minds (in this case having someone to lean on) it means that we're not giving that attention to ourselves. True confidence is internal, it doesn't rely on anything outside of your mind.

Now this definatly isn't for everyone but the other things that helped me immensely are psychadelics (lsd, magic mushrooms, mdma and weed). They forced me to look hard at who I was and why I feel the things I feel as well as who I really want to be.

Still, nobody can give you a total outline of what to do to fix this. Its a personal thing where you'll find your own way and end up a complete and happy person.

 

[amethyst]

Think of everything as a game, and if that doesn't work, imagine the girl you’re talking to is Margaret Thatcher... Either way just clear your head and pretend you are talking to a friend rather than a potential fvck.

Love

Amethyst

 

[saber]

lol pot definaelty helped me until it got outta control...
everyday after work and all day on weekends...lol

I posted this manual a while back that supposedly can remove your emotions but i haven't tried it. It may have some good pointers in general even if you dont follow it...but if you try then tell me cause im curious


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=129057&highlight=sociopath

 

[young_gun]

LOL, I probably wouldn't recommend using psychedelics, but to each his own. I play my guitar when I need to take a break from the world. Music is pretty relieving for me.

Sometimes my old habits will come up when I get down though (chew). LOL. Glad my girlfriend hasn't found out about that.

 

[thefonz]

Experience in interactions with multiple women. Eventually you start to see these emotions coming from a mile away. Developing strong feelings for a girl usually takes time and when your young you don't have the checkpoints set up for stopping these feelings from arising in their tracks. You don't concern yourself as much with the reality of the situation.

These checkpoints are set up by personal experience in dealing with girls/people and they in turn give you more power to decide who you like rather than impulsively falling for that "hot chick" you randomly see in class.

 

[DonGorgon]

Don't fight or suppress your emotions... they will come in handy when you are trying to make your marriage work.... Too many people spend the first 35 years of their lives being emotionless players and hos... then wonder why they don't know how to sustain a marital relationship...

 

[downfallofdisbelief]

I think this is a subject that's most mis-interpreted on this forum / site.

It's not about suppressing, hiding, or changing your emotions. It's about being conscious to what you are feeling, and what is healthy and unhealthy.

Emotions such as attraction, love, hate, anger, sadness, anxiety, and so on.. are perfectly normal emotions. We have them because we need them to survive. Without all of the emotions, humans would have been gone long ago.

My point is, don't suppress how you feel, because it is simply how you feel and you cannot change that. Humans are masters of convincing themselves into different states of mind, so really it's about asking yourself "Am I being rational, or is this just me making something into something so much worse?"

If you are being rationally emotional, don't sweat it. We are human, and we aren't perfect. Don't listen to what "Master Don Juan" has to say, unless you want to end up 10 years down the road in the office of some therapist.

Being a Man isn't about being a drone ok?

 

[sandman6991]

There's nothing wrong with having these emotions, the problem is when you express them to women in an unattractive way. Life's not a movie...and despite what you may want to believe...that is a huge turn-off to women.

 

[Mad Manic]

"Do not let your emotion control you if you want to become warrior" - Van Damme's Thai Master in Kickboxer.