"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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How do I know I've worked my muscle enough?

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Yesterday as an example, I did a tricep press, four sets and worked the muscle on each set until I could no longer push up. Weight was as much as I could do and still maintain 7-8 reps.

It's now morning and my triceps are really not sore. Does that mean I didn't work my muscle hard enough? I'm wondering whether I actually broke down the muscle if I don't feel it the next day.

Is muscle soreness a good indication that you have done the job?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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speakeasy said:
Is muscle soreness a good indication that you have done the job?
no, in general continous strength gains are an indicator you've done the job.

however if you do something like a 20 rep squat and are not sore the next day, then you pussied out and did not do a 20 rep squat.
 

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Warboss Alex said:
no, in general continous strength gains are an indicator you've done the job.
That sounds right. So in geneal, do you think that each week, you should be adding 5lbs to whatever your previous week max was?
 

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speakeasy said:
So in geneal, do you think that each week, you should be adding 5lbs to whatever your previous week max was?
No way in hell. If that was true you'd be adding 250lbs a year to your squat, deadlift and bench.

After an initial period where you can add 2.5-5lbs a week to your exercises, progress comes differently (and needs different techniques to achieve).
 

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Warboss Alex said:
No way in hell. If that was true you'd be adding 250lbs a year to your squat, deadlift and bench.

After an initial period where you can add 2.5-5lbs a week to your exercises, progress comes differently (and needs different techniques to achieve).
Yeah, I've noticed that. When I first started weight training, my gains were fast and quick, now they're levelling off and it's becoming increasingly harder to get to the next level.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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change some exercises/sets/reps, work on your weak points, change the frequency of your lifting. but you'll still stick to the squat, deadlift, bench, press etc and their variations. just do something different things with them.

of course, as the weights get heavier form and technique become more important and they can hold you back too.
 

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Being sore is not an idicator of how hard you worked the muscle.

I do agree that with certain exercises - squats and deadlifts - if you aren't at least somewhat sore the next day, then you aren't lifting what you should be. I know guys who've been lifting for years that can barely get off the toilet the day after doing squats.

DOMS is due to various factors - I think DOMS becomes less of a factor as your diet becomes better, your cardio is better, the amount of water you drink and vitams/supplements.
 

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I know guys who've been lifting for years that can barely get off the toilet the day after doing squats.
Sounds like me every tuesday.
 

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I've found my arms, biceps and triceps, are never sore the next day. Even though I get a good pump while working them. Same with abs. I can tear the sh!t out of abs and not feel a thing the next day.

Back and chest, I feel a little sore the next day.

Legs, from squats, sore the day after. The day after that, extremely sore and difficult to walk sometimes.
 

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I think part of it has to do with your familiarity (or lack thereof) with the movement.

I'm far along in my lifting career that my gains happen less frequently and I'm rarely, if ever, sore. My squats and deads have progressed well, but they don't leave me sore. They do leave my leg muscles tight and drained, however.

Well recently I've started sprinting...a completely new activity for my body....let me tell you about SORE.:eek:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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