how do i keep my chin up

[Thundernuts]

Fellas,

I got me a girl since ive been away. I was saying with my father and we were planning on getting a house. Now this new girl she lives about an hour away from were my dad was staying. Now here is a little history lesson. I first met my dad december of 2009, and have only seen him five times since then. My father was on felony probation. Anyways long story short, he got pulled over for another dwi. The state of texas is going to nail him to the wall over this because he wasn't supposed to be drinking or driving for that matter.

I find myself in a very peculiar and very tough situation. Not only am i not moving in with him, but my father is also in really poor health since he has been smoking since he was 15, and people on my fathers side of the family have a serious heart problem. Odds are since he will be in prison for at least 4 years, he wont live to make it out. Those are just odds mind you, i hope to see him again. My question is how in the hell am i supposed to keep functioning and have a good attitude when this bombshell just dropped on my life. I like this girl, and not only am i in a position to lose her but also now i have to stay with my mother again and living down here sucks. I just don't know what to do.

I know asking this on a dating board is kind of weird, but you guys have given me rock solid advice in the past and im really hoping that someone on here can give me some words of encouragement/advice on my situation. Right now im so pissed off and depressed its like i don't really feel anything. I appreciate you reading this and please any advice is welcome and cherished.

Thankyou
-Thunder

 

[TheMale]

hey thunder

sometimes things just happen ... thats the way it is i know it may be tough
but dont let this things influence you to negative attitude
and im telling you that from my own experience !
if you gonna give up no one will be here to support you a llitlle bit may be but not enough to help you

to have a negative attitude will not help you at all to move on ...

imagine you break your arm ... is cryin gonna make you fell good or itll better to laugh at it or even dont give a sh!t ?
im not telling you to give a sh!t about that cause its the worth thing to do but yes live your life and try to make things better with your parents

-TheMale

 

[Myrrdin]

Tough times dude...
Your main focus is not the girl right now. It's getting your sh1t together. With or without her life still goes on. It's up to you how.

I think that by focusing on the girl will divert your attention from the more urgent things going on in your life.

I think you want the girl so she can soften the blows. Well, don't. You need to learn how to handle it by yourself.

So, chin up . And better times will come I assure you

 

[Thundernuts]

well the girl is a good thing, she isn't actually like a girlfriend shes more of a motivation than anything. I do enjoy being with her, but she not my main focus.

Right now not only do i have to apply for grants for college, but i also have to get my fathers airboat and his truck out of the impound and its just killing me. I just feel like I've been robbed of my time with him. I mean seriously im infuriated, its weird though because its making so mad all i have been doing is busting my ass trying to take my mind off of it. Maybe its a good thing.

The reason I even mentioned the woman is because in the past six weeks I've finally made some friends out here and found a job and at the moment its in a position to fall apart before my eyes. I just feel like im in over my head, but no one else is gonna do this but me. I suppose i just have to be strong.