How Do I Just Close The Deal Here

[mccj]

Hey all,

I'm a college student who's been on one date with someone I met at a party. We chatted in person and via text for about a week while we were taking finals since there wasn't any great time to be makin' moves. I took the initiative to call her just before break and ask if she wanted to go to this concert with me when we got back, she enthusiastically said yes and we went on Saturday. It was a fun time, I'd say, for both of us and we went to a couple of little parties afterwards and had a nice time. Via text (unfortunately, I know) we planned to see each other at my place for dinner one time this week, to which she said yes on the 'only' condition that she could help out after showing her "such a nice night". I told her I'd get back to her after I went to some meetings and saw what the week looked like. That was the end of our communication, midday yesterday.

Me and my roommate unfortunately ran into her on my way home late last night, but I tried to be as discrete about it as possible and we moved on pretty quickly.

My questions are:

1) When do I contact (do I call) her again to actually set this up? Can I afford to have her come by on Saturday, or should it be sooner?
2) Is cooking dinner a good idea (I'm sort of committed to it now and she seemed enthused, so I'll stick to my guns) and how best to pull it off?
3) Do I make a move there, or do I walk her home, etc?

 

[teacha]

1) When do I contact (do I call) her again to actually set this up?

Contact her whenever you ready man. To be honest, it really does not matter whether you text/call/facebook her. If she wants you, she will come...

Can I afford to have her come by on Saturday, or should it be sooner?

Please stop thinking like this, it reeks of desperation. C'mon, its college, there's more where she came from.

I dunno about you but everytime i tried not to fcuk things up with a girl, i always ended dissapointed but whenever i really didn't care about the outcome; i've always ended up with a stalker on my hands lol. I guess what im trying to say is: don't focus on the outcome but rather focus on just having fun. Stop walking on eggshells!

2) Is cooking dinner a good idea (I'm sort of committed to it now and she seemed enthused, so I'll stick to my guns) and how best to pull it off?

Uhmm, I dunno man. It's kinda obvious she knows the only reason you are offering to cook for her dinner, is because you wanna jump into her pants. Girls are not stupid. If she seemed eager about the whole thing then, :cheer::woo:.

3) Do I make a move there, or do I walk her home, etc?

Don't tell me, in all this time you've spend with her, you haven't even done a thing yet? Dude what are you waiting for? :kick:

Of course, you should make a move A.S.A.P, but don't come off as someone that's desperate, by rushing to escalate things either. You have the whole night, after all. Be patient and take your time...

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Contact her whenever you ready man. To be honest, it really does not matter whether you text/call/facebook her. If she wants you, she will come...



Please stop thinking like this, it reeks of desperation. C'mon, its college, there's more where she came from.

I dunno about you but everytime i tried not to fcuk things up with a girl, i always ended dissapointed but whenever i really didn't care about the outcome; i've always ended up with a stalker on my hands lol. I guess what im trying to say is: don't focus on the outcome but rather focus on just having fun. Stop walking on eggshells!



Uhmm, I dunno man. It's kinda obvious she knows the only reason you are offering to cook for her dinner, is because you wanna jump into her pants. Girls are not stupid. If she seemed eager about the whole thing then, :cheer::woo:.



Don't tell me, in all this time you've spend with her, you haven't even done a thing yet? Dude what are you waiting for? :kick:

Of course, you should make a move A.S.A.P, but don't come off as someone that's desperate, by rushing to escalate things either. You have the whole night, after all. Be patient and take your time...

Good post bro! Spot on, take notes OP and stop being so scared!

Your over-analyzing a simple situation.






PIMP

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Your in college... Just like me. Unless she is a dime and you want to actually date this chick I don't believe you should have even took her to the concert. You took her out in a public place where it was hard to escalate. You need to invite her to your crib for a movie and take it from there.