How do i handle these queers...

[southernteen]

How do you respond to a guy who is acting like a queer to you? Im still rather quiet in class and there are around 5 guys who will try and hit on me at least once a week. They are obviosly joking but i cant help but feel uncomfortable when they do this. I have been picked on in one way or another since kindergarten and im ****ing tired of it. When they try to hit on me or start making winking or licking motions when the teacher isnt looking how can i respond without everyone assuming that im a Queer? All these guys are pretty popular so everyone knows they are straight but me im the quiet genius who nobody knows.

Any help you can offer would be appreciated.

I apoligize for the quality of the post ive been up way too long as it is.

 

[fezz]

Ok, I understand what you are sayin. You are the quiet type, and these guys are hitting on you and taking control of the fact you are silent and won't do anything. Do somethin damn it! I used to let people do that sh1t to me. Look, just one day, look them in the eye and say "Hey Baby" and give them a wink. They won't expect it, and who cares if they think you're a queer.

 

[Snoopy]

Ultimately no matter what you say in this situation, you're gonna feel stupid. But saying something is the smartest thing you can do. Surely a self-proclaimed genious like yourself can see this. Say something, and say something in similar situations. If they are being pricks, call em on it. It will probably cause more harm at first, because you don't have any outgoing friends to back you up (most likely) But being the quiet kid is a thousand times worse. Humans are social animals, by not speaking up, taking chances, making mistakes and moving on, you are setting yourself up for a life of social failure. Speak up-take one on the nose (even literally if it comes to that) Because it will only make you better in the long run.
And it is a very long run indeed. You have a long difficult road ahead of you, don't let anyone lie to you and tell you otherwise. You're definitely on your way by coming to this site.

Don't worry so much about what you say to them, its anywhere near as important as the act of speaking up for yourself. As you become more social and learn not to be the quiet one, you'll eventually learn the right things to say.

At your current social standing however, I wouldn't recommend following the above advice. It might hang over head for awhile as you try to get on your feet, and you already have enough on your shoulders. (OK enough with the cliche'd metaphors) Good luck sir. I hope you continue to post!

 

[Kourt]

I've had this happen before. Ignoring it dosnt help, trust me. It dosnt go away unless u activly try to stop it. The next time you get hit on by a guy do this: hold up ur hand, and put up ur pinky finger, then take it down, then put up ur ring finger, then put it down, then put up ur middle finger and hold it there for a little bit, they'll get the idea. It works wonders, and everyone can get a good laugh out of it. Or u can just say "stop being a douche bag" that works too. Oh and if u dont know what that is just go to www.urbandictionary.com and look it up.

 

[Julian]

"listen fagg if i wanted to get my d1ck sucked id get your skanked out mom to do it"

 

[ShizamDaMan]

"Hey man, my ass is exit only."

"Woah there... I don't take loads in the rear."

Either that or play along. My friends and I joke around in gay voices sometimes. We'll do the dumb voices and crack up about it.

Just have some fun with it and stop letting him have fun with you.

 

[Need-2-B-Pimpin]

Have fun with it! What I'm gonna suggest is gonna help with your uncomfortability and also with your quietness because it takes a little bit of balls.

Play along! Hit back, grab their ass or something (hmm, maybe not that), but act gay back. Hit on them, call em sexy azz b!tches: Long as you stay confident and don't puss out in the middle of it itll give you funny points.

 

[DJoneday]

Are these guys pricks? I'm not so sure, it looks like they're just messing around and having a good time. Just like you should and probably would in their shoes. I say you start talking out a little bit more and joke around with them. What's the worst that could happen? Best case scenerio you make some more popular friends, worst case you stay where you are.

 

[InsidiousNstinct]

"I'm about as frustrated as a gay guy on valentines day that just got his tonsiles (spelling) taken out." That ALWAYS gets a laugh...

 

[Evil-Rom]

Originally posted by ShizamDaMan
"Hey man, my ass is exit only."

LOL, nice.

 

[CaptainMorgan]

the only thing u should say is "if u keep acting queer around me then im going to stick u in the face" if they keep acting queer or make a smartass comment, then stick them in the face

 

[Best friends? NAY]

If you want to piss um off say something like " your g/f jsut offered me the same thing"

If you just want to have fun look over at um like your cheking them out and say $5 for you, 10 for your friend.

 

[Kalen]

Thanks for the advice guys.

I have managed to stick it to one guy pretty decently 2 or 3 days ago. He was the least annoying of the lot all he did was to grab onto my arm daily and start winking at me when i made eye contact during class. Anyway, I looked at him while we were talking before the bell and he winks at me. I lean forward where he and the two girls between us can hear and address one of the girls. "Why is it that guys are so attracted to me? I know im goodlooking but really." This got a good laugh from all involved and the guy has yet to do anything again.

Have fun with it! What I'm gonna suggest is gonna help with your uncomfortability and also with your quietness because it takes a little bit of balls.

Your right of course. Im just sensitive about this topic since i used to be a fat geeky guy who read startrek books all day and talked with a pretty bad lisp. I have improved a good bit since then even managing to work out most of the lisp but it still upsets me when people call me gay.

the only thing u should say is "if u keep acting queer around me then im going to stick u in the face" if they keep acting queer or make a smartass comment, then stick them in the face

That unfortunatly would lead to social exile and good asswooping on top of that seeing as these guys are all popular and much stronger than me.

<this is southernteen by the way signed in with my old SN again<

 

[FreeStyleZ]

"listen fagg if i wanted to get my d1ck sucked id get your skanked out mom to do it"

LOL!

 

[Bombshell]

I have been fortunate enough never to have had that problem. IMO there really is only one way to fix it and that is to become social. Also as much as you hate these guys I dont suggest you don't do that crap on TV where you stand up for yourself and try and talk these jerks down because trust me it wont work ive seen it tried. Also I dont suggest you make queerish response back to them because that will only get them to make fun of you more, especially behind your back. In fact the whole reason they are making fun of you is to get a reaction. The bigger the reaction the better. Your going to have to ingore the times poeple make fun of you and even laugh about it with them. Soon they will just move on and you wont be their target. Then if you continue to go from their its really easy to become somewhat friends with them to where they will stick up for you when others make fun of you.

Here are some rules to follow that will help you make some friends: (note these are just general rules some may or may not apply to certain people)
Fist things frist get fix things about you that get made fun of

1. I strongly suggest you dont ever bring up interests that are not popular among popular kids (this may include Yu-Gi-Oh, Pokemon, DBZ ect. when you bring up stuff like that or wear t-shirts your only asking for trouble. Even though it is actually amazing how many "popular" kids are into that stuff but just keep it quite.)

2. I obviously dont know if you are are not, but dont be a "dirty" take a shower everyday, wear deoderent & calogne, and keep your hair cut nicely with a combed style that fits your bodytype. If you have dandruff use dandruff shampoo.. shave that fuzz crap on your chin (unless you have a nice gotee going, ask a girl if you should keep or not) and under your nose...get rid of your monobrow...ect

3. If you are out of shape, then get in shape duh if there is one thing thats been very rewarding to me in life other than being able to finally attract hot girls is being fit and looking good for myself. If you have ever noticed most of the popular kids are in decent shape whereas the skinny kids and fat kids get made fun of. Get in shape, play sports (at least once to get to meet people better even if you dont particularly like the sport) you will automatically get more respect and have more confidence in yourself which is really the key to everything. I took up bodybuilding myself and couldnt be happier.

You have to socialize with everyone to be truly popular. It seems to me that thoes who arent popular seem to pick out a group of guys and label them as the cool crowd and for some reason and think they are better then them. Well I for one don't see anyone as being the coolest group because each one is different with different types of people (although i think the group with the hottest preppy girls usually gets labeled the popular group???) So when you become friends with each group (including the stoner/goth/geek groups) you exceed beyond popular. If you can be unique and be friends with all, then everyone will respect/like you, and when everyone likes you, you are number 1. =) Oh yea and being funny helps to, watch comedies for that and it will help your personality a lot. Everyone likes a funny guy.


Ok sorry how unprofessional that was, but hope it helped. This is definately my area of expertise but i have little experience giving advice on it. My only problem I ever had was being the new guy and I was kinda shy for a while, but for some reason no one made fun of me then either and were quite nice to me, in fact the first guys i started talking to were jerks who made fun of quite types with me (I never actually did the making fun i just sat back and watched which i regret now, but they didnt seem to care that they did all the work.)
Anyway im tired as fvck and am not thinking straight. Have a good time in HS bud.

I have tons of experience with making friends and being popular.
If you want more advice bro PM me or msn at [email protected] and I be happy to help you out.

 

[Oxide]

Human nature sucks, when you are smarter than the dumbass who is making fun of you and let it pass by, somehow that excalades into them disrespecting you. Of course guys talk **** about each other, but some take it too far.

I suggest saying something, but... heh i dont know if u can handle it man.

I used to have my roommate, who was fired up by alcohol and friends try and talk **** to me. I knew i had to put an end to this early, so i said "lets go in the front yeard and fight". I won, he never spoke **** again, neither did his friends.


The problem i have now tho is, when we try and freestyle, people tend to talk mad **** about each other, how do u play it off when someone goes "and ur a lil b!tch, blah blah". i generally hate putting people down like that, but for some reason it seems fun??!!