"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do I go about converting fat to muscle?

darknessburns

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Hi guys,
Just wondering how I could work off those 'flabby' sections. I was originally considerably larger and over the last few months was able to lose 20kg (bringing me into the 'healthy' weight category ). However, now I need to tone up and I'm not quite sure how to go about it.

I mainly want to focus on abs and upper thighs.

Any help would be greatly apprecitated.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Muscle cells and fat cells are completely different things. It is like saying you want to transform aluminum into gold.
 

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You LOSE fat and GAIN muscle.
 

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I'm sorry. I probably didn't phrase it correctly. Not 'convert' in the literal sense but build up the muscle and lose the fat in those particular areas.
 

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Re:

As reiterated by the above posters. Fat is fat, muscle is muscle. By dropping fat, you expose any muscle you might have.

You can't spot reduce. Fat is dropped from the extremities, such as the face, legs, buttocks, and then works inward to the belly, hips, waist, and chest.

Your best bet is to focus on a diet of low carbs/high protein/moderate fat and watch your calories. Atkins fails in its disregard for calorie totals. Find a good calculator online and then work out your totals. Low carbs are about 5-20% of total diet. Why low carbs? Because carbs and fats require different enzymes in the body, and the body can only do 1 thing at a time...store carbs as fat, or burn fat as energy. If you're eating carbs, the body FIRST shuts down fat burning to dispose of the carbs. If you're eating primarily fats, over a long-enough time period, you'll develop the enzymes and the regularity to switch to consuming fat. Also, you'll cease any future fat deposits as a result of eating carbs.

Focus on working out more and being active. Scientific studies confirm MORE lean body mass is preserved and gained by an active program of exercise and no calories restriction, versus just a program of calorie restriction. Why? Because exercising and lowering calories thrusts the body below its comfort level of intake calories, slowing down its burn rate.

Target burning 500 calories per day of exercise. The usual program of 3 days a week only of working out isn't sufficient. If you want, lift 3 days, and walk the other 4, but be active everyday. Take up hobbies and sports.

The reason society is obese is due to the fact we're less active, therefore we consume less calories relative to ancestors (though some consume way more), and most humans are way below the threshhold of calories, and their running slow. We're near inactive. Even 30 minutes isn't enough. The body was built for working out. The other option is to lower your intake of calories to near starvation so as to remain at a constant bodyweight. The alternative is to workout consistently and eat the same amount of calories. For me, it's about 1800 to maintain weight, not accounting for activity. Add activity and it's about 2200. I could workout everyday, eat 2200 calories of food, and maintain or lose weight.

12 week programs aren't what people sell you on them think they are. It took you years to build the body you have, it would take a good deal of time to do the reverse. You can certainly get lean in 12 weeks or 20 weeks, but building up substantial muscle isn't a reality. About 25% of weight gain is muscle, and 75% will be fat. You can shift that by eating low carb and doing resistance training to a bit more muscle, but any gain will cause a concurrent gain in fat, so you want to temper your gain.



A-Unit
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Choose what you want to do first, then concentrate on that for 8-10 weeks. If you want to cut fat for the summer, do that and try to maintain as much muscle as possible. Then when you're ready to bulk, carefully eat above maintenance calories so you can put on muscle with minimal fat gain. Back and forth, back and forth.
 

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20kg? Hot damn, good job!
 

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darknessburns said:
I'm sorry. I probably didn't phrase it correctly. Not 'convert' in the literal sense but build up the muscle and lose the fat in those particular areas.

Sorry, it's in the FAQ. You're not allowed to speak anything but literally around here. Unless it's to your advantage like when you read the bible.. then you can pick and choose between literal and figurative however you want and change it depending on the argument.
 

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A-Unit said:
The reason society is obese is due to the fact we're less active

I think it's cause we no longer walk up hills both ways.
 
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