How do I go about asking for and getting a kiss on the first date?

[manfrombelow]

instead of leaning in and chasing the kiss I pulled back my head and stared at her...

Other than a good laugh, this one right here is the right mindset every guy should have: A kiss is basically your GIFT for the woman you're dating.

So if she's not receiving it gratefully (by joyfully exchanging saliva with you), you stop giving it to her INSTEAD OF CHASING the kiss.

Think about it this way: If you've prepared a gift for somebody, and for some reason he/she is refusing to receive it, would you keep pushing and forcing them to receive it? Hell no, you just bring it back home without even saying anything.

Same for a kiss. It's your gift to a woman. Not vice versa.

Very good read. Thank you brother. Congrats that you had an enjoyable date with a chick who sounded like a HB8+.