How do I get rid of my overthinking/overanalyzing problem

[JPlaya]

It's horrible, I make situations seem bad when it isn't and it just messes with me head.

 

[oscarkool]

Honestly this is just a mindset thing but what you have to do is treat every single girl you meet/like as a long-term endeavor and get used to the idea of talking and seeing them like once a week.

Lot's of guys move way to fast, they'll even sleep with the girl early (nothing wrong with that as I try to sleep with the girl the first night I meet her), but if you keep moving fast and plowing after you have sex, the girl will eventually go cold and you'll be left over-analyzing. This is why 'players' and 'sluts' bounce from person to person because they always destroy interest way too early and instead of trying to figure out what happened, they just get a new partner and move on (which isn't a solution to the overall problem).

The ideal solution is to have multiple partners that you see once per week. Hammer this mindset in your head, stop chasing, move SLOW once you hookup (make her chase you) and you'll be fine. When you sleep with a girl, you should immediately stop chasing her and watch what she does and go from there.

And if you're talking about feelings, being sensitive or emotional to women, then stop because that's pure failure and a HUGE turn off.

 

[PrettyBoyAJ]

Take a break from the forum. Take a break from reading anything to do with picking up women and take a break from podcasts.

 

[Krueg]

Stop caring, their only girls. I remember when I was younger I'd tease them, call them names, make fun of them and ect. Why try to be polite or worry about impressing them, now that your older? Its what society is forcing on you. Be your own man and do what you want.

 

[Naughty Ninja]

It's horrible, I make situations seem bad when it isn't and it just messes with me head.

I used to do the same sh!t all the time...Till I finally got tired of that nonsense. It'll only drive you insane. Eventually you'll reach a point where you say "fvck it, why worry about crap I can't control" then hopefully you'll just move on to learn from the past mistakes, and improve yourself to be the best person you can be for yourself.

 

[self-respect]

I used to do the same sh!t all the time...Till I finally got tired of that nonsense. It'll only drive you insane. Eventually you'll reach a point where you say "fvck it, why worry about crap I can't control" then hopefully you'll just move on to learn from the past mistakes, and improve yourself to be the best person you can be for yourself.

Seconded. Once you reach your breaking point and finally get sick and tired of thinking and hate how much it's screwing up your life, it just happens. You just go for it, and your life will become much simpler and easier.

Perhaps something that will help is I've found the biggest thinkers are ones who are bright enough to try and use their brain to save themselves from rejection and failure. You try to micromanage your responses and actions so that you're always doing "the right thing" that won't get you ostracized, starting from when you're a little kid. Fvck that man. Most people don't and can't do this and they're much HAPPIER because of it. Once you're okay with looking like an absolute idiot and not caring as long as you have fun doing it, what use do you have to think much anymore? Jump in and do what makes you happiest.

 

[Mike32ct]

If you're anything like me, my weakness is I overanalyze because I want to do everything perfectly. I always want to make the best moves and the best decisions.

But that's not reality. You have to be ok with making mistakes and not doing eveything perfectly. Even with all my analysis, I still F up here and there.

My dad alwas said, "Just make a decision, even if it's wrong.". He's a successful businessman.

So when you get stuck on something like "Should I call or text this girl?", instead of posting about it, just PICK one and go with it. See what happens rather than driving yourself crazy trying to pick the better one.