"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How do i get rid of jealousy ???

Latinking13

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im askin because my gf was commenting other guys on hi5.com and i kind got jealous and i told her and she told me not to trip that they they were only comments, and the other day i saw her commenting this one guys fotos, telling him he was sexy blah blah and hes was fake lol... so yeah i got mad at her and told her ima bounce, well she apologized and said shell be more considerate.. anyways was there a reason to be jealous here? or was i over doing it? and how do i get rid of it, i dont wana be over jealous because thats scares some girls away....
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DavenJuan

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how old are you?

jealousy is a big thing that you want to get control of. however, it is extremely inconsiderate for your girl to be commenting on a bunch of guys pages that there sexy right in front of you.

sounds like she has no respect for you.why is she commenting on guys pages anyway?

none the less. yuo NEVER want to come off as jealous. what you really should be saying is you dont want to be jealous because you know their is no benefit.... not because you think it may scare women away.

but i will tell you what will help you get rid of this horrible disease we call jealousy..

its pretty simple......ready.......???

SPIN OTHER PLATES

problem solved...good luck
 

Latinking13

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DavenJuan said:
how old are you?

jealousy is a big thing that you want to get control of. however, it is extremely inconsiderate for your girl to be commenting on a bunch of guys pages that there sexy right in front of you.

sounds like she has no respect for you.why is she commenting on guys pages anyway?

none the less. yuo NEVER want to come off as jealous. what you really should be saying is you dont want to be jealous because you know their is no benefit.... not because you think it may scare women away.

but i will tell you what will help you get rid of this horrible disease we call jealousy..

its pretty simple......ready.......???

SPIN OTHER PLATES

problem solved...good luck

yeah well it was only one guys she said he was sexy and he was a fake..just some user who used some models fotos.

and the other mofos were just commenting her trying to get wit her that kind of bothered me but she said she didnt say anyhting bad to em..

anyways what u mean spin other plates?
 

Dole

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trying to hook up with other girls is what spinning plates means:rock:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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yea man thas disrespectful ..i could see if she was leaving comments like "Hi how are you ?" stuff like that but shes sayin there sexy and commenting on their looks..Sounds like to me shes keeping her options open /shes an attention seeking women.. Hope it works out tho bro
 

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AfRoSwiss-Disiac said:
yea man thas disrespectful ..i could see if she was leaving comments like "Hi how are you ?" stuff like that but shes sayin there sexy and commenting on their looks..Sounds like to me shes keeping her options open /shes an attention seeking women.. Hope it works out tho bro

thnx man, ive talked to her and she said well be more mature about the situation
 

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You've got to weed garbage women out man and then you don't have to deal with jealousy of this type.

A chick your with commenting on some untouchable celebrity guy being sexy is fine as there's no chance of her ever meeting that guy, its basically a harmless fantasy but when she's leaving comments left and right on guy's Myspace's page or someother online meetup type of site thats where you draw the line and tell her to cut that sh!t out or you walk.

And if its hard for you to walk ask yourself what you would rather have...

A relationship or a frustration?

A relationship has you and a girl enjoying eachother's company with sex and productive open communication and more sex. Ontop of all that its a union of mutual respect and established boundaries.

A frustrating experience has you looking over your shoulder constantly because your girl has gone out of her way to let you know that you can't trust her and doing nothing productive to ensure you that you can trust her other than throwing empty words of change out there with no changing action to back them up. Guys with this experience come on here and tell us about how they don't think she's a bad girl or a cheater at heart but that they can't get their feelings in control to trust the girl because there is just something about her that is untrustworthy. That is the gut instinct sense telling you to remove yourself from the situation. To eject and those that don't listen to their own gut instinct almost always pay a heavy price for it.

Not saying this is the case for you just yet but its something to keep in mind.
 

sosilky

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what if

what if shes not myspacing other guys or **** like that in front of you. Is she disrespecting you or trying to spare your feelings? I'm tal;king about the first couple minths of a relationship. Is this harmless or signs of someone that can't be trusted in the future?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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tihash

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A frustrating experience has you looking over your shoulder constantly because your girl has gone out of her way to let you know that you can't trust her and doing nothing productive to ensure you that you can trust her other than throwing empty words of change out there with no changing action to back them up. Guys with this experience come on here and tell us about how they don't think she's a bad girl or a cheater at heart but that they can't get their feelings in control to trust the girl because there is just something about her that is untrustworthy. That is the gut instinct sense telling you to remove yourself from the situation. To eject and those that don't listen to their own gut instinct almost always pay a heavy price for it.
Kontroller X is spot on.
 
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