"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do I get over this hurdle.

mO 64 StAnG 06

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Hey guy's, just a quick rundown on my situation.

I've been talking to a girl that I went to school with that, from what I hear, loved me. Or thought I was cute. Same thing. :D

Anyway, now that we are out of school, and she finally ended her long relationship a while back, we finally talk for the first time. After a few messages on Facebook we meet up and starbucks and have a chat. Went great. I don't have a problem teasing the hell out of them and making girls laugh.

But now that's its been a few day's we hung out, four to be exact, and after messing around a bit ( I've been sick so I couldn't exactly please you know), everything since then has seemed stale.

I know she likes me. She made that clearly obvious. But it's at this point where I always **** up. When they play hard to get. Or what I believe she is doing. This sudden sign of disinterest usually makes me just move on. But now that I realize this is just a game, how do I overcome it?

I've lost several potential relationships all because I don't understand why and how to beat this game. Any help would be great, I wouldn't mind being with this chick for a while.

Appreciate it guys!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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i know this may get some AFC ratings for me..but ahh well here goes.

why dont you try this..

TELL her you're taking her out on a date, friday at 8, the specific the better chances of her not being shaky...

Kino and make her laugh routine on date..try for kiss close at a nice spot..

most of the stuff you do while you're with her will make or break your chances, more than what you say can..if that makes sense..

you tellin her you like her will most probably screw it up..but you showing her you like her without saying it, and i mean do it with class DJ...that will tell her all she needs to know to make her next moves..good luck
 

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Well just to clarify.

This chick, from her actions, was really into me. She mentioned she thought I was just here to **** her and leave, which I reassured her I wasn't as I would have already done so if that was the case, and hinted discretely that I liked her, maybe.

I have no problem being flirtatious and fun when we are together, which everyday we've hung out was like. But it's these moments when I get a sudden cold shoulder from them out of no where that Im not sure what to do.

I just told her I would call her at 7 and if she wasn't done by then, (She's claiming she is helping her brother re-tiling her kitchen that she is supposedly doing ALL day), I will make other plans.

Which she mentioned me to go ahead. I replied something along the lines of, Ok, don't work too hard, maybe we can find another day to hang out.

Usually in the past I would just move on when they do this, but I want to figure out how to pass this bull**** and stick it out to get her.
 
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