So I been seeing this girl for a while now. She ended up being the most dishonest immature, cheating ***** ive ever been with. I had oneitis really really bad. So I know I need to get back in the game, and quick to forget about this chic but my main problem Is definately the fear of success. I hate games and having my mind ****ed with, and I always end up with oneitis really bad and really fast. Im afraid im gonna be back in the game, and have these games played all over again because I let my walls down and start to like some girl more that wasnt even worth my time. How do I get back in the game without getting all sprung on a chic? And im so mean and bitter right now still, I made 2 girls cry today and I wasnt even trying. Wtf do I do to get over this ****. My heart was just ripped out with a spoon and eaten for fun.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
How do I get over the oneitis?
- Thread starter C-money
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
redspicyflag
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Dear C-money,
Your problem is that you are insecure with yourself. What you need to do is not get involved with another woman in order to forget the last because you will just fall into the same routine over and over and over and over.....
There is no quick fix to what you have, but a long road of learning how to correct yourself. What you need to realize is you have been conditioned to latch onto women, that you need to build up enough of a foundation consisting of -you- so when it ends you do not look towards a girl hoping to pick yourself up. Be secure with who you are, learn what it means to be a man. Being obsessed over a woman who obviously is not good enough to be with is just wasted time.
Simple fact is you have lots of work to do, you need to get your **** together, grow a pair of balls, be a man, and learn to stand on your own two feet without the crutch of a woman. Also, once you have a solid foundation, the mind games played by women will just be a joke to you.
Keep your head up, read the bible, get some self esteem, and let us know how it goes for you in the future,
-k
Your problem is that you are insecure with yourself. What you need to do is not get involved with another woman in order to forget the last because you will just fall into the same routine over and over and over and over.....
There is no quick fix to what you have, but a long road of learning how to correct yourself. What you need to realize is you have been conditioned to latch onto women, that you need to build up enough of a foundation consisting of -you- so when it ends you do not look towards a girl hoping to pick yourself up. Be secure with who you are, learn what it means to be a man. Being obsessed over a woman who obviously is not good enough to be with is just wasted time.
Simple fact is you have lots of work to do, you need to get your **** together, grow a pair of balls, be a man, and learn to stand on your own two feet without the crutch of a woman. Also, once you have a solid foundation, the mind games played by women will just be a joke to you.
Keep your head up, read the bible, get some self esteem, and let us know how it goes for you in the future,
-k
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I feel your pain. I've seen it happen to me and all those around me. Heck, last year '07 I saw this guy who'd been courting this immature little b1tch for several years lose her at moment's notice. She met me in the presence of him (just the 3 of us) eating together at the table, and she got a Good long hard look at me, and within a week she got pregnant by another (rich) guy with the same name as me. Totally ripped the guy who'd been courting her and loved her (but never did anything with her) for years. I never see this guy again, like he's so humiliated. I don't know maybe he's off to college somewhere, but I never see him anymore, now that she (a little spoiled brat) just up and dropped him. I feel bad for showing her another world. I tempted her. He would have been great for her, loyal, and strong - a bread-winner. But like a sheep she was lured away by me. She may have regrets now - I don't know. Her choice though.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I hate games and having my mind ****ed with, and I always end up with oneitis really bad
When you own skills get better, learning to fvck with her mind and playing defense when she is trying to fvck with yours, then you will start creating the same oneitis in girls who have it for you as bad as what you now see in yourself.
When you own skills get better, learning to fvck with her mind and playing defense when she is trying to fvck with yours, then you will start creating the same oneitis in girls who have it for you as bad as what you now see in yourself.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.