Guys I cant move out anytime soon....so me and my ex girl are stuck living together...but I still love her but she doesnt feel the same...im sure she has somebody new....my question is how can I get over her while I am here....wat steps do I need..i wanna shake this feeling...keep in mind I just move to her state and hometown and I really dont know anybody.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
How do I get over her when we live together
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Take it as a vitally important lesson to be learned, and don't make the same mistake again. You gave up everything to be with her - now you have nothing, and don't know anybody. And you can't leave.
About the only thing you can do is accept the situation you put yourself in, and adapt. Go out and date other people. Start getting connected with others. Get a life. Be social. Go out. Stop depending on her for everything. Accept that its over. Drill it in your mind that it is. She's just a roommate at this point - one you don't need to talk to beyond house issues.
Do NOT date other people with the intention of getting her back. She's no longer a prospect for dating. Don't even think about being together anymore.
About the only thing you can do is accept the situation you put yourself in, and adapt. Go out and date other people. Start getting connected with others. Get a life. Be social. Go out. Stop depending on her for everything. Accept that its over. Drill it in your mind that it is. She's just a roommate at this point - one you don't need to talk to beyond house issues.
Do NOT date other people with the intention of getting her back. She's no longer a prospect for dating. Don't even think about being together anymore.
of course you can move out
it might make your life hard, but not as hard as your life will be if you stay there with her
and yeah, when you follow a girl to another city or state specifically to be with her, you surrender all your power to her and then surprise surprise! she is no longer attracted to you
the right girl will move for you or stay for you. the woman is supposed to follow the man, not the other way round
it might make your life hard, but not as hard as your life will be if you stay there with her
and yeah, when you follow a girl to another city or state specifically to be with her, you surrender all your power to her and then surprise surprise! she is no longer attracted to you
the right girl will move for you or stay for you. the woman is supposed to follow the man, not the other way round
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Stupid question.
Move out. And if you can't, then shut up and live with it until you CAN move out.
What else can people tell you? Next question...
Move out. And if you can't, then shut up and live with it until you CAN move out.
What else can people tell you? Next question...
I knew a guy that moved in with his girlfriend, they broke up, he starting dating some real hot girl and was banging her in the house they both lived in while she just had to sit there and take the punishment. How's that for a sh*ty situation...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Iceberg
Master Don Juan
If he's on the lease, and the girl doesn't like him then she'll be happy to let him leave and find a roommate. Unless I'm supposed to believe that she HATES him, but somehow still wants to live with him. But I'm not dumb enough to believe that, right?floydb25 said:He might be on the lease. How can he move out, then? If so, thats another lesson to be learned.
If not, move back to wherever you came from.
Besides, I think he got all the help he needed in his other thread about this topic
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=190176
Beyond that, I don't think there's much that can be added. And I'm already having my doubts about this guy's credibility.
You're putting too much faith into women, there. Some of them DO like to see men suffer after the break-up, and gloating about it. Some of them are crazy. Some of them like keeping people around that they hate - be it as friends, or ego boosts, or roomates, or husbands. Some of them simply do dumb **** in general. So on and so forth.
people break leases all the timefloydb25 said:He might be on the lease. How can he move out, then? If so, thats another lesson to be learned.
If not, move back to wherever you came from.
also he can still pay the rent but stay somewhere else