heres my story - i met this girl a few years ago but it wasnt until about 2 months ago that we really started talking.
You are either two years deep in to the friendzone, or a guy whom for the last two years she either looked at as not interesting enough to approach or not confident enough to approach her.
we started talking a lot more and about a week ago i started considering what it would be like to have her as more than a friend.
You don't got to lie to kick it, dude. You've been
"considering it" for a lot longer than a week. Maybe off and on here and there, but a McChicken Value Meal and a pack of Marlboros says you've spanked it to her more than once.
i casually brought it up in a conversation and mentioned how i thought that we were pretty compatible (i never mentioned anything about liking her).then she dropped the "just friends" bomb, mainly because shes cousins with one of my best friends and shes already good friends with a few of my other buddies.
I'm trying to imagine what that conversation looked like.
You: And that was the first time I went skiing. So uh, do you like skiing?
Her: Yeah. My dad has a cabin out in the rockies and we used to go out the---
You: NO WAY! Listen, I was just thinking about how we both like stuff like skiing and double caramel cappuccinos. You know -- the kind we get when we go out to Starbucks. Then I got to thinking about how much I like you as a friend. It's not that I likeyoulikeyou or anything, but you know, we would probably do good in a relationship. Like more than friends, you know?
Her: Look, duke104 see the thing is I really like you. Just... as a friend. Your a really great guy, and you're really sweet and everything but I don't want to risk a great friendship like ours. And I mean you and my cousin are like best friends. I just don't want to ruin things with OUR friends, you know?
You: I believe you.
any advice on how i can get her to rethink this and take our friendship to the next level?
FOOL!
Face it! The conversation you had with her was LIMP and lacked any element of sexuality. It may not have looked exactly like the one I dreamed up, but you and I both know it was probably pretty similar. Your penis may as well have not even existed for the intents of your dialogue.
You made one of the biggest mistakes in thinking that a man can make. You are trying to get a female to rationalize that she should be with you on the basis that as a great friend you would make a great lover.
Women do not just re-think whether or not they want to bang their friends. If they are willing to, it is because whether they will admit it or not, they were always open to the idea.
Women are sexually motivated by a challenge. They want to meet a guy that can control them, but fantasize about pulling the strings in the relationship behind the scenes. They don't rationalize that great friends make great relationships because they are already in a position of power. A guy friend gives a woman all of the benefits of having a boyfriend and sometimes more -- except she doesn't have to sleep with you to get it.
My advice is to try again with a different girl.
