We have all been there. You open. You build repore. You know that your not going home with her. So what you want is to get away before you screw up. Unfortunately it's a small bar. Or, your friend is still working the winggirl. Or, maybe there is another set just off to your left that you would also like to open. How do you ask for the number. When you are going to spend the rest of the night randomly bumping onto one anohter.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
How Do I get out of a pickup with a number and still hang out at the same bar.
- Thread starter bannor
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
jakeyboy
Master Don Juan
after getting her number if you keep bumping into her again...
you : -mock look of surprise and stare at her with quizzical look.
are you stalking me?! i'm gonna have to call the cops.
her : -laughs and punches you on the arm-
(do what you want then, isolate her or whatever)
you : -mock look of surprise and stare at her with quizzical look.
are you stalking me?! i'm gonna have to call the cops.
her : -laughs and punches you on the arm-
(do what you want then, isolate her or whatever)
silverback
New Member
Jakeyboy's advice is pure gold! I've used that exact line on strippers and they love it! A variation is "you keep coming around and flirting with me"
Also, I think it helps if you have a quieter spot that you take the girls to under some innocent pretext. Then set a short time constraint "I only have a minute and then I have to get back to my friends/mingle" "You're interesting/I'd like to talk with you again/whatever....you've been negging her till this point so you can get a little mushy....but you're still alpha and in control: "here, right down your name and the best way to contact you."
After you get the #/email :"see you around"
Hopefully, the other girls you want to meet haven't seen you getting the number, so they don't know you're a PUA. Then you can work the same routine without anyone knowing what you're doing.
Then, find a chick that seems drunker or sluttier than your primary targets and run the old change of venue routine
"This place is so damn LOUD! Let's go somewhere quieter...I know a place"
You can practice more aggressive closes on these ones! And you won't have to worry about the others.
I'm thinking McFadden's or Bell and Hand for this Brannon...
peace and love.
SB
Also, I think it helps if you have a quieter spot that you take the girls to under some innocent pretext. Then set a short time constraint "I only have a minute and then I have to get back to my friends/mingle" "You're interesting/I'd like to talk with you again/whatever....you've been negging her till this point so you can get a little mushy....but you're still alpha and in control: "here, right down your name and the best way to contact you."
After you get the #/email :"see you around"
Hopefully, the other girls you want to meet haven't seen you getting the number, so they don't know you're a PUA. Then you can work the same routine without anyone knowing what you're doing.
Then, find a chick that seems drunker or sluttier than your primary targets and run the old change of venue routine
"This place is so damn LOUD! Let's go somewhere quieter...I know a place"
You can practice more aggressive closes on these ones! And you won't have to worry about the others.
I'm thinking McFadden's or Bell and Hand for this Brannon...
peace and love.
SB
The first thing I do when I get to the bar is locate my friends.
These friends might be somebody I already know, or not. Whatever the case, once I've gotten comfortable with this group then they are my "home base." After every approach, every trip to the bar, out to my car to grab something, etc. I return back to this group. I don't quite attach myself to the group the way many people do with their group - moving together. Rather, I come and go, maybe stick around to tell a great story, and as soon as that's done and everybody is still laughing I say "I need to get another drink" or just mutter something and get up... it doesn't matter.
Then if I approach a girl, I always have an excuse first. For example, last one was sitting on the back wall. I said I needed to "sit down for a minute, sober up a bit". This is easy in a small bar, to always have a reason. So I approach a girl like I'm just chatting with her for the moment because she's where I want to be, and when things go especially well I'll start to get summoned by my friends at their table or somebody walking by will say "Hey, so-and-so was looking for you" (especially great if so-and-so is a girl) so then I wind up the conversation, number close, and head back. After that, I pretend not to notice the girl, and if she sees me it's likely at the table with my friends again, at the bar getting a drink, or talking to some other girl. Yes, she can see you talking to other attractive girls (operator being attractive - show her you've got some standards, buddy!), especially with these bar slvts it really doesn't seem to matter.
Just a bit of insight about guys trying not to look like a player at the bar: many girls go to the bar looking to get laid by a guy they know will not trap them in a relationship. I have heard this exact exchange from girls:
girl1: He was cute... but he gave off a player vibe
girl2: great! so he wont be clingy
girl3: yeah, hit it and quit it
Then I started laughing, and they looked at me in shock and said "OMG you weren't supposed to hear that!" and I laughed some more. I guess girls aren't so ashamed of their sexual misdeeds with each other. They just don't want guys to find out.
The tip about calling her a stalker is gold. Running into the girl doesn't have to be a big issue. If you know you're not bringing her home tonight, and you've already settled your business with her by getting the phone number, then you're done with her... for now. Just say something to her teasingly and keep going about your business.
These friends might be somebody I already know, or not. Whatever the case, once I've gotten comfortable with this group then they are my "home base." After every approach, every trip to the bar, out to my car to grab something, etc. I return back to this group. I don't quite attach myself to the group the way many people do with their group - moving together. Rather, I come and go, maybe stick around to tell a great story, and as soon as that's done and everybody is still laughing I say "I need to get another drink" or just mutter something and get up... it doesn't matter.
Then if I approach a girl, I always have an excuse first. For example, last one was sitting on the back wall. I said I needed to "sit down for a minute, sober up a bit". This is easy in a small bar, to always have a reason. So I approach a girl like I'm just chatting with her for the moment because she's where I want to be, and when things go especially well I'll start to get summoned by my friends at their table or somebody walking by will say "Hey, so-and-so was looking for you" (especially great if so-and-so is a girl) so then I wind up the conversation, number close, and head back. After that, I pretend not to notice the girl, and if she sees me it's likely at the table with my friends again, at the bar getting a drink, or talking to some other girl. Yes, she can see you talking to other attractive girls (operator being attractive - show her you've got some standards, buddy!), especially with these bar slvts it really doesn't seem to matter.
Just a bit of insight about guys trying not to look like a player at the bar: many girls go to the bar looking to get laid by a guy they know will not trap them in a relationship. I have heard this exact exchange from girls:
girl1: He was cute... but he gave off a player vibe
girl2: great! so he wont be clingy
girl3: yeah, hit it and quit it
Then I started laughing, and they looked at me in shock and said "OMG you weren't supposed to hear that!" and I laughed some more. I guess girls aren't so ashamed of their sexual misdeeds with each other. They just don't want guys to find out.
The tip about calling her a stalker is gold. Running into the girl doesn't have to be a big issue. If you know you're not bringing her home tonight, and you've already settled your business with her by getting the phone number, then you're done with her... for now. Just say something to her teasingly and keep going about your business.