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How do I get my roommates help clean the apartment?

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I am a senior in college who lives in an apartment with 2 very dirty guys and their equally dirty girlfriends. I am literally the only person here who cleans anything. Being that I am the only one doing any "***** work," how can I call myself a real DJ? A real alpha male would get them to help out somehow, but how do I get them to help without being a complete Nazi to them?

Sometimes I make fun of how dirty it is by saying things like, "Guess how many species of mold are growing on this one pot?"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A DJ does not try to fix a broken relationship; he moves on.

So in this case I guess you should abandon ship, find a new apt.

Noone ever said moving on is easy :p
 
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Pretty much makes sense, but at the same time I know alpha male types or even regular guys who are just diplomatic have ways of motivating people, I was wondering what they would do.

I'm certain there are people other than myself who have dealt with issues like this.
 
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they both have girlfriends apperently so your wrong jose
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

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Put any of their unwashed crap on their beds, they soon learn.
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Started doing this to one of my roommates. It helps. As far as the whole place goes any personal crap laying around gets tossed in our respective rooms.

I have one roommate who is like me and keeps things clean and the other is a piece of $hit.
 
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Just come out and say you want them to start helping cause you been doing most of the cleaning.
 
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Sounds a bit like the same situation i'm in. But i guess that is what you get when you live with other people.
 
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same situation. But for us verse 1(dirty person). I think we got him down after a number of rules that indirectly pinned him down.

For your case though, I would be straight up about it. Two things can happen. First of all, remember what a friend is..a person who RESPECTS your voice.

They will either A) make some attempt to clean up(hey its a start). or B) laugh it off and joke around. If they do B and you told them you are serious about the situation they obviosely DON'T respect you as an individual. If they don't how can you call them your friends? Move out and get a new apartment.

If you are using them for rides, parties, etc. Reconsider it. Is it really worth meeting new people when the first thing that happens is your roommates treating you like sh1t??
 
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Maeisgood said:
I am a senior in college who lives in an apartment with 2 very dirty guys and their equally dirty girlfriends. I am literally the only person here who cleans anything. Being that I am the only one doing any "***** work," how can I call myself a real DJ? A real alpha male would get them to help out somehow, but how do I get them to help without being a complete Nazi to them?

Sometimes I make fun of how dirty it is by saying things like, "Guess how many species of mold are growing on this one pot?"
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i think yo should focus less on trying to be "alpha" and more on trying to solve the issue

no one said your not a real DJ. DJ's don't control people, but they do stand up for themselves

that being said, why not confront them on the issue. don't joke about it or fight about it, but just let them know that they should start cleaning up more. if they don't, i would just stop cleaning altogether and let the place go to hell, or just move.

only clean your space and throw their crap in their rooms. they'll get the hint.
 

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Good replies all, I'll try them out. Recently some of our friends who hang out there who don't live there pitched in and cleaned. As soon as he leaves something there or screws up the recently cleaned room, I'll have to call him out or something.
 
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Maeisgood said:
Good replies all, I'll try them out. Recently some of our friends who hang out there who don't live there pitched in and cleaned. As soon as he leaves something there or screws up the recently cleaned room, I'll have to call him out or something.
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Dont be a Nazi and get after everyone. Just let people know they need to pitch in with you.
 
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