I have been dating this girl for quite a while now. She lives an hour away and we don't get to see each other much, but we talk every day. I was wondering is there any way to make her miss me more so than she does. Should I cut off talking for a day or so? Is there anything else i can say or do to make her want to come visit more often??
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do I get her to miss me?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Gangster Of Love
Master Don Juan
Does she even miss you at all? If she does, then why the worry?
If she doesn't, then she is not that into you to begin with, so why put in so much work in trying to manipulate the situation.
All you can do is to make your time together memorable and hard to get away from. If she doesn't want you to leave and spend time away, then you have a different challenge to tackle.
Shouldn't she already be eager to go visit you? Is it logistically possible/reasonable for her to go see you more often? Is she the one that always visits you? Are you the one only visiting her? You don't give much detail.
If she doesn't, then she is not that into you to begin with, so why put in so much work in trying to manipulate the situation.
All you can do is to make your time together memorable and hard to get away from. If she doesn't want you to leave and spend time away, then you have a different challenge to tackle.
Shouldn't she already be eager to go visit you? Is it logistically possible/reasonable for her to go see you more often? Is she the one that always visits you? Are you the one only visiting her? You don't give much detail.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
I've been sent text messages in the past like "I miss you <3" but we don't see each other as much as we used to. Hell for a while we saw each other every weekend. Now its once every other weekend...if that. And a lot of the time i am the one wanting to hang out. Maybe she isn't interested...but its odd because she says "Love you" which i understand are just words...but its really hard to tell...especially when we're together. I'll try to stop talking to her for a day or so...(how long should i go for..until she contacts me?)
Stop calling her so much. Go out there and meet other girls.
Why do I say this...? Because if this relationship falls apart
then you got another girl lined up to go out with.
See right now your the boring always there guy.
Stop that. Girls don't like that.
Become scarce!
Why do I say this...? Because if this relationship falls apart
then you got another girl lined up to go out with.
See right now your the boring always there guy.
Stop that. Girls don't like that.
Become scarce!
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Dont just cut contact for a day. Do it for a few days. Be busy with your own life, and put her on the backburner for a few.
And for God sakes, quit sending 'i miss you' texts.
Dont just cut contact for a day. Do it for a few days. Be busy with your own life, and put her on the backburner for a few.
And for God sakes, quit sending 'i miss you' texts.
kingy
Senior Don Juan
you cant take away "cut contact" and make the girl miss you until she actually likes you.
what you wanna do is work on your life okay, so start doing cool things and talk about them on the phone or through text "had the most amazing day today.."
also your facebook, add female friends, just getting a couple girls to post on your wall and to say lets hangout soon will get her too be all protective of her man
you dont wanna cut contact cos she will just assume u are still beta or whatever youve done to lower your value. instead keep same amount of contact but instead talk about fun things you've been doing, dont ask too many questions about her life either for a couple of phone conversations.
then seeing you are having fun she will be more inclined to want to be apart of that.
what you wanna do is work on your life okay, so start doing cool things and talk about them on the phone or through text "had the most amazing day today.."
also your facebook, add female friends, just getting a couple girls to post on your wall and to say lets hangout soon will get her too be all protective of her man
you dont wanna cut contact cos she will just assume u are still beta or whatever youve done to lower your value. instead keep same amount of contact but instead talk about fun things you've been doing, dont ask too many questions about her life either for a couple of phone conversations.
then seeing you are having fun she will be more inclined to want to be apart of that.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Yea this is a long distance thing. She used to come over every weekend and vice versa. but now it seems we see each other twice a month. She also used to tell me every time we talked how much she loved me. Then we took a break because we both had some work to do. Now that we're back together....idk it just seems different...she just doesn't seem as attached as she once was.