how do i get going?

[rapless]

ok, i'm in my early 30s and should be having the time of my life, but i am in a serious rut....it's more than just a rut, i really think i am suffering from clinical depression.

i am currently unemployed and overweight. needless to say, i'm getting NO female action....none. no meeting, no numbers, no dating, and definitely no sex. i find myself sleeping VERY long hours, more than normal.......and no matter how long i sleep, i find myself tired when i wake up, and cannot get out of bed. i can't get going......i feel weighed down physically, mentally, and emotionally....i feel no drive to head to the gym and eat right, and i muster up only enough drive to look for work in the paper, though not as much as i should. i feel drained all the time. i'll wake up after sleeping 9 hours, and i'll still just turn over and go back to sleep. it's not that i feel lazy.....i actually feel physically debilitated and drained.

to add to this, my main sources of pleasure are found in overeating and masturbating daily to internet porn (or pictures of women i meet/chat with in internet chatrooms). i still see my friends, but most nights, i just have seemingly endless hours of television shows keeping me company. granted, i never had much success with females before, but now i've really been reduced. basically, i've hit rock bottom. has anyone else here gone through this? i've never been through this before. i lost a very close, dear family member 4 months ago, and i'm almost sure this has something to do with it, but even before that, i was still feeling symptoms of depression....mainly fatigue and sleeping very long hours. what can i do to take that first step in the right direction? i dont have the money to see a professional, but i know i have a problem

 

[DonJuanMonk]

Save your drama to your momma, we aren't going to help pull someone that's this deep in the hole. That crap is your business.

 

[iveyleeger]

throw out the t.v
stop jerking off
get some meds (& test your thyroid)
start doing something useful
and forget about women for now

 

[stevera004]

Originally posted by rapless
ok, i'm in my early 30s and should be having the time of my life, but i am in a serious rut....it's more than just a rut, i really think i am suffering from clinical depression.

i am currently unemployed and overweight. needless to say, i'm getting NO female action....none. no meeting, no numbers, no dating, and definitely no sex. i find myself sleeping VERY long hours, more than normal.......and no matter how long i sleep, i find myself tired when i wake up, and cannot get out of bed. i can't get going......i feel weighed down physically, mentally, and emotionally....i feel no drive to head to the gym and eat right, and i muster up only enough drive to look for work in the paper, though not as much as i should. i feel drained all the time. i'll wake up after sleeping 9 hours, and i'll still just turn over and go back to sleep. it's not that i feel lazy.....i actually feel physically debilitated and drained.

to add to this, my main sources of pleasure are found in overeating and masturbating daily to internet porn (or pictures of women i meet/chat with in internet chatrooms). i still see my friends, but most nights, i just have seemingly endless hours of television shows keeping me company. granted, i never had much success with females before, but now i've really been reduced. basically, i've hit rock bottom. has anyone else here gone through this? i've never been through this before. i lost a very close, dear family member 4 months ago, and i'm almost sure this has something to do with it, but even before that, i was still feeling symptoms of depression....mainly fatigue and sleeping very long hours. what can i do to take that first step in the right direction? i dont have the money to see a professional, but i know i have a problem

chancer, is that you

Look dude, decide if you're gonna pu$$y out for the rest of your life. If so, then get lost now. Otherwise, the main problem you are having is your lack of success. Failure reduces male hormones in the body (thought to be an adaptation to cause men who have recently lost battles to be more careful since they have demonstrated weakness and may lose a subsequent battle. The opposite happens when men experience success; male hormones flow and they feel they can do anything. That is why powerful men are so horny (see Bill Clinton and Martin Luther King as 2 great examples). They are succesful, have the hormones raging in their body, which makes them take more risks (a very nice positive feedback loop that we have evolution to thank for).

So, you need to get the male juices flowing and also pull out of your depression.

You can do this with the following:

- lose weight (ie. eat less you fat pig)
- work out (especially lift heavy weights) and do some heavy cardio & stretching
- toss the TV and anything that makes you feel inferior and thus reduces your energy
- get out of the house and get some sun or go to tanning bed
- start working at some job, any job
- start internet dating, and just hang out with the fatties ... start small (or large as the case may be ) and this will help your confidence

OR, you can go the artificial route and

- get prescription for Prozac or Prozac like SSRIs
- and/or take testosterone (eg. test. gels)

Remember, your life is not that important, so don't get paralyzed by excessive thinkging and pondering. Just fvcking do it ... that's it.

 

[stevera004]

I also like this web site, for a lot of simple and basic self help ideas:

http://www.youmeworks.com/