How do I friend-zone a coworker?

[Uncharted]

So there is a girl at work that is really into me. I basically have treated her like a normal person (just saying hi, etc, no flirting at all). I have her cell number because I needed it for work and we've texted a few times but I haven't said anything flirty or sexual (because we work together).

We went out in a big group for happy hour last night (Monday) and I noticed that she must have went home and changed because she had a lot more makeup on and a different outfit. When we met at the bar, she kept trying to make eye contact (I avoided it) and she yelled over something about the beer I was drinking. Then she came over and asked how she looked. I just said she looked nice and went back to my other conversation.

What should I do going forward? My worst-case scenario is that she asks me out, I say not interested, and then she flips out at work and tells everyone that I "led her on" or something. Best-case is that she gets the hint and says nothing.

Do I treat her like a regular coworker and turn her down if she tries to escalate or do I completely ignore her and hope she gets the point. I'm trying to decrease her IL but it looks like this is a scenario where no matter what I do I'm increasing it.

 

[Dedication]

So there is a girl at work that is really into me. I basically have treated her like a normal person (just saying hi, etc, no flirting at all). I have her cell number because I needed it for work and we've texted a few times but I haven't said anything flirty or sexual (because we work together).

We went out in a big group for happy hour last night (Monday) and I noticed that she must have went home and changed because she had a lot more makeup on and a different outfit. When we met at the bar, she kept trying to make eye contact (I avoided it) and she yelled over something about the beer I was drinking. Then she came over and asked how she looked. I just said she looked nice and went back to my other conversation.

What should I do going forward? My worst-case scenario is that she asks me out, I say not interested, and then she flips out at work and tells everyone that I "led her on" or something. Best-case is that she gets the hint and says nothing.

Do I treat her like a regular coworker and turn her down if she tries to escalate or do I completely ignore her and hope she gets the point. I'm trying to decrease her IL but it looks like this is a scenario where no matter what I do I'm increasing it.

I understand that its a co-worker and the 'don't **** where you eat' apply's here but I don't think i understand you as a person. Why is the bolded part so bad? I could think of a lot worse that could come from dating her.

Either you tell her the truth or say you have a girlfriend. Or just keep doing what you're doing because she's bound to give up... Eventually.

 

[BeDJ]

How ugly/fat is she?

What's wrong with just telling her no if she asks you out? She will spread the word, so what? If anything, it should increase your value to others.

Women will reject you without second thought or regard. Men need to stop being courteous to protect a woman's feelings.

This thread encapsulates our emasculated society.

 

[Uncharted]

You bolded the wrong part..

My worst-case scenario is that she asks me out, I say not interested, and then she flips out at work and tells everyone that I "led her on" or something.


I found some interesting info searching by the way:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=147690

 

[Uncharted]

How ugly/fat is she?

Haha she's prob a 7. If we were not working together I would have already banged her. Only not interested because we work together. Apparently someone here was fired when he dumped a girl and created drama.

 

[r0cky]

Have you considered just going with the flow? Maybe she will never ask you out and you've spent all this thought energy on nothing, or maybe you guys end up getting closer and YOU end up asking her out. Just let go of the need to control and things will work out in your favor.

Go about your day with confidence, not with the insecurity of "what if".

 

[Uncharted]

Go about your day with confidence, not with the insecurity of "what if".

This makes sense the most. Thanks.

 

[om1xr]

First : Emotions change so don't trust a B!tch.
Second : You don't know what is going to happen tomorrow so start living the present because that's all you got
Third : your situation is so simple you just over-thinking and over-analyzing so if she asks you out and you are not interested just say no and if you are a caring/emasculated type just tell her that you are seeing someone or something like that .
Good luck Man .

 

[f283000]

Give her the SISTER card

There's the friend card (which is what women give us to let us know they don't see us as f___able) and then there's the sister card.

Start calling her "sister." It's that simple and it is the easiest and less troublesome way of letting a girl know subconsciously that you don't want her.

The moment you start calling her sister it will trigger thoughts in her mind such us "omg does he really think of me as his sister" which in turn will start killing her attraction for you. Obviously she does not want to F a guy that thinks of her as a sibling. This is what giving women the sister card will do. Slowly but surely she will get the message this works.

I use the sister card all the time to keep girls that think they got a chance with me in their place

 

[Cremasta]

What should I do going forward?

You might be able to simply avoid the whole situation by acting innocent/ignorant of her attentions towards you.

Is she the kind of girl who would ask you out? Not many girls are, no matter how enlightened and equal to men they say they are.

I've missed opportunities with girls in the past because I just had no idea they were keen and so I didn't make any moves at all. After a while, they simply lost interest and nothing was said. You might be able to do this on purpose.

 

[Secondtimeround]

Give her the SISTER card

There's the friend card (which is what women give us to let us know they don't see us as f___able) and then there's the sister card.

Start calling her "sister." It's that simple and it is the easiest and less troublesome way of letting a girl know subconsciously that you don't want her.

The moment you start calling her sister it will trigger thoughts in her mind such us "omg does he really think of me as his sister" which in turn will start killing her attraction for you. Obviously she does not want to F a guy that thinks of her as a sibling. This is what giving women the sister card will do. Slowly but surely she will get the message this works.

I use the sister card all the time to keep girls that think they got a chance with me in their place

Yes. Works like a charm every time - unless you are some hipster side on that calls everyone sister but hey, thankgoodness we ain't!