"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
How do I dump my GF
- Thread starter wonderer
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Albatross953
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Desdinova
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Send her a text, letting her know that it's not working for you, and that you're moving on. Ignore all follow-up responses. Break-up accomplished.
...and don't buy into all this "break up like a man face-to-face" feminist bull5hit. The manly way to do anything is to do it quickly, efficiently and successfully.
And sorry... You cannot be friends with her afterwards.
My advice to you my friend, be a man and do the right thing. Tell her. The longer you drag this on the hard it is on you both. Especially for her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Desdinova said:
I couldn't agree more, I mean from my experience, a woman that want to get rid of you (or give you the LJBF line) will probably sent you a long text, it's very rare that a girl will take the time to meet you. Besides the result is the same
RangerMIke
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You will need to take as much time as it takes. Don't drag it out, and don't cut it short.
You may have to set up a time later to exchange things that you may both have of eah others... do it ONCE. Change your locks.... change ALL your passwords.
Desdinova
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Why even go through all that 5hit? Why waste time and energy on a woman you're no longer interested in? Why risk having her go outside and kick the 5hit out of your car?RangerMIke said:
Face to face makes absolutely no sense. If she needs to blow off steam, let her do that with her girlfriends. That's their job, not yours because she's no longer relevant.
wonderer said:
It's easy and not sure why you're dreading it.
Just send her a text. Tell her the relationship isn't working for you anymore.
That's it and it's over.
No point in being friends with her. Move on to better prospects.
There's no point in dumping her face to face.RangerMIke said:
Do you think she would dump him face to face?
No. She would do it over the phone probably by text.
This is the reason why you don't break things off face to face so you don't have to deal with that $hit when she gets pissed off.RangerMIke said:
Sounds like you're contradicting yourself.RangerMIke said:
If you're taking as much time as it takes you're dragging things out.
Why not cut it short? You're there to dump. Not to have a date and friendly convo. Get it done.
Sending a text is the best way to do it to avoid any of these problems.
It is quick and it gets the job done without any problems. No need for any face to face interaction.
She wouldn't waste her time dumping him face to face so why should he?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
comic_relief
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I just told my ex-gf that I was unhappy and needed to break up. When she told me, "Why are you so unhappy?" I told her that I am happier being alone in my room than when you come over."wonderer said:
She will respect you more if you come out and don't lead her on.
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This is all very well and I don't have a problem with the method but you must know nobody is going to take that lying down and nobody with a heart is going to be able to just ignore someone's texts or voicemails unless they block them.Desdinova said:
Say you need space. Then if 2-3 weeks later you still feel she isn't attractive then break up. It also gives her time to get used to the idea of you breaking up rather than it coming out of the blue.