"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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how do i deal with this guy

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Last year, I met this guy and I became "friends" with him but at the time I often acted stupid and goofy just to get laughs... and as a result he thinks I'm pretty dumb. Because of that, he often talks to me in a really condescending way which really pisses me off now and makes me feel unconfident. Whenever i say something even remotely stupid, he'll just look at me for a long time like i'm some kinda freak and start talking to me like i'm a retard. And a lot of times he'll talk about me as if i'm not even there... like one time, he was bragging about beating me in basketball and when I mentioned other times that I destroyed him, he started talking to his friend and ignored me, telling his friend that i "imagined" those matches (he wasnt even joking). i don't really know what I should do... should I just get mad at him? Usually my reaction is just to laugh it off... but I still feel pretty pissed off. And its impossible to just stop being friends with him.. because he has a lot of the same friends as me. you might wonder how this relates to being a DJ and everything... but until i feel confident around other guys who try to make me feel bad, i don't feel that i can be confident around girls.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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BxPrince24

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What is up with you guys allowing people to piss you off? You guys need to stop laughing at things that piss you off. seriously. And why do you need to feel confident for a guy or a girl? Do it for yourself. Screw the world buddy, you own it. It's your playground. If the thousands of people in your area didn't like you it wouldn't mean sh*t, there are still millions of other people out there who may like you.

First of, stop smiling with this guy when he pisses u off. Tell the guy, look, your jokes are getting out of hand. You're making me look bad and I don't respect that. If you want us to continue being friends then chill, cut it out. If he says anything negative, then f*ck him. You're not trying to bang a dude so who gives a f*ck about them.
 

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Yea it's kind of a difficult situation. He's not really your friend, obviously.

He says: yea I beat Sebastian in basketball
Sebastian: man, the only thing you ever beat is your d*ck

He says: "Sebastian does this and that"
Sebastian says: "thats how I am homie, you got an issue?"

He says anything that's disrespectful, call him on it. Don't cuss him out or "get mad". WOMEN get mad. Real men get testy and fix the problem on the spot.

I used to laugh it off too, but then I started respecting myself. I'm not anybodies' b*tch.

In any situation with a scrawny guy talkin sh*t, remember these 5 words: "You got a problem, b*tch?"

Short and simple phrases are your friend. "Shut the f*ck up* is my favorite. If people get in my face, say "take two steps back before I put my fist in your mouth." This will inevitably start a fight, so don't say it unless you're ready.
 
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I use to be in the same shoe as you are man. I got a freind who pissed me off so bad, well i dont even think we was freinds becuase of the way he disrespected me. So one day i walkd up to him and said "hey I'm tired of this crap, tired of you and your remarks, tire of your attitude." then i just walk off and talk to my real freinds(who soon became wingmans) about a week later he start talkn to me again. Its pathetic. Remember have a backbone, demand respect at the same time show respect.(Dont gossip or talk sh* t bout others). You did the right thing by laughing but there are time you gotta get serious and settle it out.
 

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Originally posted by AC/DC
Yea it's kind of a difficult situation. He's not really your friend, obviously.

He says: yea I beat Sebastian in basketball
Sebastian: man, the only thing you ever beat is your d*ck

He says: "Sebastian does this and that"
Sebastian says: "thats how I am homie, you got an issue?"

He says anything that's disrespectful, call him on it. Don't cuss him out or "get mad". WOMEN get mad. Real men get testy and fix the problem on the spot.

I used to laugh it off too, but then I started respecting myself. I'm not anybodies' b*tch.

In any situation with a scrawny guy talkin sh*t, remember these 5 words: "You got a problem, b*tch?"

Short and simple phrases are your friend. "Shut the f*ck up* is my favorite. If people get in my face, say "take two steps back before I put my fist in your mouth." This will inevitably start a fight, so don't say it unless you're ready.
Christ almighty, grow up. You're one of those jackasses that always tries to start a fight left and right.

DO NOT TAKE HIS ADVICE. The best thing to do would be to just stop talking to this guy. He obviously isn't much of a friend. Just don't try to start a fight. It's irritating and childish. Just chill and move on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Aznkid1030

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What kind of friend is that? Screw him.


LMAO!
He says: yea I beat Sebastian in basketball
Sebastian: man, the only thing you ever beat is your d*ck

:crackup:
 
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