How do I deal with an LTR's *****y/lonely friends?

[AmIAFC]

I'm slowly but surely entering the LTR phase with this wonderful girl I've been seeing, and everything's been great thus far.

However, she has these two female friends, whom she's known since childhood, and they're "getting in the way," so to speak. They're obnoxious, *****y, abusive attention *****s who seem to not only be overprotective of their friend but always find success dragging her around like a ragdoll.

I don't want to get in between her and the friends, nor do I want to bring it up as it would reek of jealousy signs, so what do I do? I've tried to bring buddies along to divert their attention, but they wouldn't touch these girls with a 10-foot pole.

 

[jophil28]

How old are you and these girls ??

 

[sodbuster]

Birds of a feather...flock together. SO she either grows up and finds new friends,or she is LIKE them. UNLESS she is 15 or so,she shouldn't be hanging around with people who are so different[small towns,where your friends are limited-may be an excuse]

 

[terran2k]

if those friends are single, they're gunna wreck your relationship. If it's honestly bothering you, don't be afraid to tell her. if you bottle it up, it'll work against you. anyway, i agree with sodbuster pretty much.

 

[AmIAFC]

Have you ever seen "Deliver Us From Eva" with LL Cool J? Basically, it's a flick that revolves around the depressing plight of 3 engaged/married men whose significant others are heavily influenced by the feminist and ball-busting antics of their alpha female "sister" who happens to be alone and single.

I'm in the exact same situation, except I have two lonely b1tches to deal with.

 

[jophil28]

ignore.

 

[jophil28]

What do you do ? You outsmart the whole freakin' sorry bunch by encouraging your G/f to hang out as much as possible with her girls.
This will surprise all of them. Those conniving baitches are just waiting in the shadows and taking notes. Any possessiveness or jealousy on your part will be amplified by them and used as ammo against you in your absence. They want you gone so give them NOTHING to work with. Tell your girlfriend that you are actually coming to like them.. Give each your seal of approval. Be charming and inclusive.

The idea is to let them scratch and pick at you by inventing reasons for your g/f to dump you. She won't of course because she has no legit reason to, and she is also invested in you and your relationship.
Do not react or complain about their behavior and eventually they will come off as 'the problem' not you. If you play your part with big brass nuts and a charming smile ,your G/f will defend you against their sniping criticism.

The game is then your's.

 

[Kailex]

What do you do ? You outsmart the whole freakin' sorry bunch by encouraging your G/f to hang out as much as possible with her girls.
This will surprise all of them. Tell your girlfriend that you are actually coming to like them.. Give each your seal of approval. Be charming and inclusive.

EXACTLY.

Take a page out of the Care Bears and fight back with LOVE.

It's our nature to combat fire with fire, it's just how we are as human beings. We're programmed to fight back as soon as our backs are up against the wall. And all these 2 "ladies" are trying to do is to get a rise out of you, to frustrate you and they WILL shift things around for your g/f mentally. If you get angry or upset and you decide to fight back, they will lurk right behind your g/f, whispering into her ear:

"Do you see? He's vicious. He's not right for you. He doesn't like us, so how can you expect him to love you. A man who doesn't like your friends, probably isn't worth it."

And trust me, these snakes WILL do all of that just to get you away from her. In this instance, you don't fight back fire with fire.



But yet, there is much to be said about what sodbuster has said. He IS right in the fact that if she is hanging around them, there HAS to be a reason why.
You never said what age they were, but I'm guessing sub-23.

You really want to tread carefully. Whenever I go out with someone who has friends like these, the typical response is for them to try to keep that one girl within the social circle that IS decent looking, to be single like them for as long as they are single... all the while, the girl keeps wondering why guys won't stick around long enough without realizing that the common denominator are the very friends she is so hesitant to let go of.