selfcontrol
Don Juan
Her personality is a perfect 10. She's a nymphmaniac. But she needs to hit the fvcking exercise bike hardcore.
Anyone had experience with this?
Anyone had experience with this?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
How do I convince chubby GF to lose weight?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
myfriendblu
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Yea,
she will lose weight and suddenly feel alot more attractive and have more guys pay attention to her, and her IL in you will drop and by by to you.......
she will lose weight and suddenly feel alot more attractive and have more guys pay attention to her, and her IL in you will drop and by by to you.......
Do some physical sports with her. Go on a bike ride. Go rockwall climbing. Go for a walk. She'll think, "Wow. He's romancing me." You'll think, "Finally she's up off her ass and moving."
Or . . .
look at her one day when you pick her up and say, "Do me a favor . . . get in slowly. Otherwise I'm afraid the force will bottom out my car. I mean the shocks DO have a limited strength."
Or . . .
look at her one day when you pick her up and say, "Do me a favor . . . get in slowly. Otherwise I'm afraid the force will bottom out my car. I mean the shocks DO have a limited strength."
ace_of_spades
Don Juan
What does this has to do with Picking Up Chycks?
catch
Senior Don Juan
nah thats not true! if she becomes a nice size then yes, she will get more attention, and she will never forget you for providing her an answer to her weight problem either...
dont get paraniod that she might leave you when shes thiner, that just shows lack of trust, and ime sure you do
trust her, dont you...
well anyway, she needs to be motivated, at the minuite shes probably rather lazy and will not like any exercise... so bring it up subtly, say:
"ime going to the gym, i cant wait, it feels so great just after you do a work out"
"hey, you can come with me , i could do with some company"
if saying that doesnt get a yes, then you keep on persisting, tell her all the great things to do , all the people to meet, and how great she will feel when she looses a couple of pounds..
if she still says no then you need to say it how it is...
if she is over weight, even only a bit, then it needs to be sorted, if she leaves it now then she will put on more and more weight and eventually die at the age of 50...
dont get paraniod that she might leave you when shes thiner, that just shows lack of trust, and ime sure you do
trust her, dont you...
well anyway, she needs to be motivated, at the minuite shes probably rather lazy and will not like any exercise... so bring it up subtly, say:
"ime going to the gym, i cant wait, it feels so great just after you do a work out"
"hey, you can come with me , i could do with some company"
if saying that doesnt get a yes, then you keep on persisting, tell her all the great things to do , all the people to meet, and how great she will feel when she looses a couple of pounds..
if she still says no then you need to say it how it is...
if she is over weight, even only a bit, then it needs to be sorted, if she leaves it now then she will put on more and more weight and eventually die at the age of 50...
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
DeathDealer
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i would just hint her that you prefer her to be more physically active.
such as.. if she calls you - you end the call with.. well i'm going for a jog now. or i'm gonna hit the swimming pool.. i'm thinking of going for a long 10 mile hike.
stuff like that will get into girls thinking hmm he seems like an active person maybe i should be active too.
saying stuff like 'maybe you should lose some weight or go to the gym some time cause you'll feel better about yourse'f will put you in a position where she feels you are beginning to judge her.
such as.. if she calls you - you end the call with.. well i'm going for a jog now. or i'm gonna hit the swimming pool.. i'm thinking of going for a long 10 mile hike.
stuff like that will get into girls thinking hmm he seems like an active person maybe i should be active too.
saying stuff like 'maybe you should lose some weight or go to the gym some time cause you'll feel better about yourse'f will put you in a position where she feels you are beginning to judge her.
octane_orphan
Don Juan
I agree I would start doing more active things together but for god sake do it covertly!!!
Dont say you want her to lose weight or hint at it anyway. She will spot an agenda a mile off. Go running for a few weeks and then make a big point about it not working for you .... give it a few days and then say you want to join a gym and would she be interested in joining you.
Tough one. Good luck buddy
Dont say you want her to lose weight or hint at it anyway. She will spot an agenda a mile off. Go running for a few weeks and then make a big point about it not working for you .... give it a few days and then say you want to join a gym and would she be interested in joining you.
Tough one. Good luck buddy
octane_orphan
Don Juan
I personally prefer curvy women, not fat or obese women (not a chubby chaser), can take or leave stick women. There is a tendance for "curvey" women to become a bit too curvey over time.
Really depends how much you have invested in the realtionship. If you have been dating for a year or longer and you want it to go on longer you will have to influence her to change, that wont be easy.
Really depends how much you have invested in the realtionship. If you have been dating for a year or longer and you want it to go on longer you will have to influence her to change, that wont be easy.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
The best you can hope to do is inspire to change by your own actions. It's more than just exercising, she needs to first change how much she's eating. She may follow your lead.
But what do I know, one of the reasons that I ended my LTR was that my ex put on the 25 pounds that I lost, go figure. I guess not everyone is made out to be a leader.
But what do I know, one of the reasons that I ended my LTR was that my ex put on the 25 pounds that I lost, go figure. I guess not everyone is made out to be a leader.
Unregistered
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You better tap that ass harder, boy. Go!
If her personality is as great as you say it is then she wouldn't have any troubles with you letting her know that shes getting a big arse.
Of course, no women are like that. What you gotta do is active things and invite her along. Additionally, cook for her. Cook a lot of fish and vegetables. Cook healthy food and she will eat it.
If she doesn't improve, break up with her. A relationship is nothing without sexual attraction. If your standards aren't met, you'll live with regret.
Of course, no women are like that. What you gotta do is active things and invite her along. Additionally, cook for her. Cook a lot of fish and vegetables. Cook healthy food and she will eat it.
If she doesn't improve, break up with her. A relationship is nothing without sexual attraction. If your standards aren't met, you'll live with regret.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MindOverMatter
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you can:
1.) get her on a treadmill and dangle a big mac on a fishing pole in front of her, just out of her reach.
2.) start working out yourself, and ask her to come with you and keep you company.
1.) get her on a treadmill and dangle a big mac on a fishing pole in front of her, just out of her reach.
2.) start working out yourself, and ask her to come with you and keep you company.
She has to make it her own goal if she wants to change herself.
If she is healthy, and happy with herself, then leave her alone.
Now if she is morbidly obese, then talk to her about it health wise.
You cant change someone to fit your ideal, so dont bother trying.
Love her for who she is.
All you can do is encourage her to join you, but unless she makes it her own goal to get results, then there wont be any.
Andromax
If she is healthy, and happy with herself, then leave her alone.
Now if she is morbidly obese, then talk to her about it health wise.
You cant change someone to fit your ideal, so dont bother trying.
Love her for who she is.
All you can do is encourage her to join you, but unless she makes it her own goal to get results, then there wont be any.
Andromax