How do I confront this liar?

[The LadyKiller]

Last week, I posted a thread about a HB8 I have been receiving plenty of IOIs from seemingly breaking up with her long-distance boyfriend. A few of us went out that night, and she introduced the guy to us as just a friend (I know girls sometimes hide their status ,but right in front of the guy?). They didn't sit near or talk to one another the entire night. The next day, she made it a point to remind me how the guy was "just a friend." The consensus opinion was that he flew in to try and talk to her, but in the end, they broke up.

Today, one week later, as I as driving to my work, what do I see? The guy dropping HB8 off at her work down the street! I didn't get a perfect view, but I'm very sure my eyes didn't deceive me. Obviously he flew in again, unfortunately my guess is they're trying to fix their relationship.

My question - is there anything I can say? Clearly we're not together, but I want to cut the games. Due to proximity and social circles, I can't "avoid' her or go no contact. As far as I can tell, she's going to continue portraying to me that she's single and give off IOIs, but I know better. I also don't play the "other guy" role, it's not worth it.

All I want is the truth. If she's taken, so be it. I'll continue working on other plates, but this bothers me more than it probably should.

 

[Renegade357]

Why are you so worked up about a girl you've never even asked out?

 

[The LadyKiller]

Why are you so worked up about a girl you've never even asked out?

I have. Asked her out a few days ago. Once our schedules clear up (a lot of late and long work hours, moreso on my end), she has said yes to a date. The plot thickens.

 

[Krueg]

Either she lied, or she is a wh@re. Two things you should stay away from... Liars and wh$res!

 

[Skyline]

Why does it matter? You two arent exclusive, only dating/a plate.

If you want to leave her alone for the other guys sake then go ahead. But if not, then just go for it. It really just seems like you're sympathizing for the guy. But women and men will use people given the chance, we arent any different when it comes to manipulation.

Im not saying ignore red flags, listen to those, but as the man its your job to establish frame and control to prevent any attempts of being used or treated like sh*t.

Dont let an insecurity ruin a potential relationship/FB.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I have. Asked her out a few days ago. Once our schedules clear up (a lot of late and long work hours, moreso on my end), she has said yes to a date. The plot thickens.

Sounds like you are an orbiter with ONEitis. I read your other thread, this chick has glaring RED flags coming out of every HOLE. Are you looking to pump and dump this broad or actually try to date her. What's your game plan on this one? The two of you don't even have a relationship she doesn't really owe you the truth & she is definitely a liar. Whoa another red flag and you want to take her out?

Her EX is a chump flying in on the weekends just to get laid and on top of that going out with her while she brings guys along.

 

[Lotus Effect]

It is sad, but after years of reading this kind of advice I'm about to give, it is really that, plain and simple.

Oneitis.

And no, it's not that you are not suposed to try to ask a girl out on a date. You have more rights for that than anyone else in the world. The problem is that you are over analysing, and worrying about the outcome. If it doesn't happen, than you should just keep going on with your life.

It is really just a numbers game. And in this particular case of yours, you should avoid any kind of relationship with this woman. Just bang her if you can and leave. You will be the rebound guy, and if you don't have your sh*t together, you might get hurt as she walks away from you to be single, or back to the arms of the ex.

EDIT: I remember now, and I've read your other thread. Seriously man, GTFO of this situation. This girl is really just good for banging and leaving. She is dissimulated, liar, evil and manipulator. I've seen inconsiderate before, but what I've read in your post was beyond imagination. Fu*k her if you can, and leave as a winner.

 

[Cremasta]

but this bothers me more than it probably should.

Bingo!

Just work the charm on her until you get a definite yes or no.

It's good you've got other girls on the go, keep working the charm there as well.
First girl to take the bait wins the prize!