"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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How do I become a natural?

Umirinbrah

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I am sick and tired of being socially handicapped when it comes to interacting with new people. I want to improve and get better. However, I don't want to use gimmicks in order to attract someone. Instead, I'd like to be more smooth and natural.

Is there any person in the gaming community that is natural and may have some lessons? I also want to try to go out and 'sarge' every day because I know how good that would get me at socially interacting with people on the regular.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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HighResurrection

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Becoming natural is defiantly possible, I think you should start your own approach journal. Whatever you focus on expands so if your constantly write in your journal it will expand your interactions.

I think as well have regular social groups that you meet up with. It easier to pull girls from social groups that those you meet on the street as well you can get introduced to friends.

Set goals for yourself as well try to do 3 approaches a week and progressively get better and stronger closes. Dont worry about being unnatural just interact as much as possible and your brain will figure what works and what doesn't.

And stay positive and never give up.
 

scribblec

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well to be honest i dont think anyone is actually a "natural"

the only thing that makes u think there natural is that they have experienced everything from a much younger age, i didnt get into the game untill i was 18 but if you see me interact with people now you would assume i was a natural

imagine now the guys that were in the whole social dynamic from a young age like 13-14.

so yea to become more natural its just more experience is need the more times u fail and succeed the better u will get at it the next time
 

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Becoming a natural, every AFCs dream.

Well the first thing I would do is hang around other naturals, and watch what they do, because they're not in the internet trying to absorb months worth of material, they're just out there talking to girls. Its funny because when i go out, i talk to ANYONE and my mates are like "why are you talking to that girl? she was ugly" and im just like "hey, who knows what they have to offer?" because they might be going to an after party with 30 hot single girls. Besides I treat all girls the same when i first talk to them, so i have no issue talking to the hottest girls in the bar and ribbing on them a little bit whilst my mates are just cleaning up their drool and offering to buy them shots because they think the only way they're going to get into these girls pants is to get them drunk.

Naturals have an abundance mindset. Remember there's always a hotter chick around the corner and if they're not, you can always go back or just call a previous chick. Naturals dont care, they really really dont care if a girl doesnt like them. Naturals talk to everybody and are socially intelligent. If you're up for the challenge, go for it bro!
 
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