"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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How Do I be less in my head???

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Less "self concious" so to say? Cause that's been a big problem for me. It makes me feel like I am not the person I want to be,and disables me in feeling good about myself. Plus, I feel this great sense of lost time and loneliness.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Dude, sorry to say but you are losing your effectiveness by starting all these threads and playing the pity card.
 
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I try not to do that ok, but honestly,it's how I really feel. Like I have to make sure I don't go around spilling this onto people. I mean,yeah,it's like I need attention brought to my own dillemma. Like I need to in order to try and find a solution. How do I stop doing that?
 
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Thank You. Gee,alot of that yeah,hit's home. The somewhat negative,guarded thing, I do that alot,sometimes obvious,sometimes not so much.

"Your life is your responsiblity...you have to take charge of it, if your not happy with something you have to fix it. No one else will. But that's what makes you feel good about yourself. Knowing that you are working towards what you want, and accomplishing your goals." That right there,that's what's screwing with my head,and the whole true dominant masculinity thing. But that's another issue.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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