"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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How do I be exciting?

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It's great that I may have come out of my shell to the point where I can have pointless small talk, but that doesn't excite anyone.

Is having lots of money exciting? I don't really talk with lots of energy. I'm always more laid back. Unless I'm talking about business, but that's something entirely different than getting girls.

Any girl with good looks is going to have lots of guys talking to her and will want to be excited.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I don't think money is going to be purely effective at that. This is going to be just a piece of it, but I think having your own interests and hobbies that you actively pursue is a good start. Something that you can be passionate about, and show that in conversation. Like for myself, I've gotten into rock climbing, and can get 'excited' about talking about it. Either experiences outdoors, how it feels, how you approach things. Different equipment, different people that you might know through mutual connections, etc. Praising that person that you both know is a nice easy way to boost yourself in her mind. You can talk with girls that also do rock climbing, or with girls that don't - if you see an opportunity. Such as if you ask what they like to do in their free time, show interest in whatever they might be into. Then when then ask back, you got something as well.

Obviously it doesn't have to be rock climbing - it can be whatever that you're into. Preferably something that's not entirely nerdy, like 'I play WoW all the time' or 'I play DnD'. Although some girls will respond to that if they're into that as well! And it doesn't have to be directly the same activity.

Sporty girls like physical activities. Party girls might like the social scene, doing parties angle. School girls may be interested in various research projects. But you can definitely mix and match, you don't have to tailor to each girl specifically. But it helps having similar pursuits as time.

For brainstorming... house flipping is a half-decent one that you can talk about. Although I don't think too many will be able to relate too much to it. Except if they're also into house flipping or something closely related - then they may also get excited and interested in it. Such as building houses. But I don't think too many girls are...

So perhaps some brainstorming on your own interests or things that you could be interested in, but have never tried before. It's best to pick something that's truly interesting to you. It's hard to fake being passionate about something that you're not. 'Yeah I love sailboating!... except I'm kind of meh towards the whole thing'.

This isn't all of what may make someone exciting, but I think it's a key component.
 

CMNILS87

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Have hobbies???

Guitar
Workout
Woodworking
Cycling
Underwater basket weaving
Bathtub twister

Dude cmon this is improvement 101. Be busy with work and hobbies
 
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