How do i ask for..

[arcilitei34]

Ok my situation is that, me and my girlfriend have been seeing each other for about 3 months now. Everything's going well, she's actually on vacation for about a week or so, so i can take a load off until she gets back haha. My problem is, i havent actually made out with her for about a month or so now, and i suppose its just pent up hormones or something, but im too embarrased to ask for it, im sure there's another way around it, some couples are completely fine and open about stuff, so i was wondering if there was another way to ask?

Thanks in advance

 

[DJoneday]

next time you and her are sitting there watching a movie on the couch, just move in and do it. Don't ask. Do it. AFter how long you two have been going out, it's time.

 

[NRM]

Ask for...

...

You need to make it clear what you want to ask for. I'm not sure if you're talking about sex or just making out. I'll assume making out. Either way,

NEVER ASK A GIRL FOR ANYTHING.

You're a man, insist man. If you want to kiss her, kiss her. At least you'll come off as a confident man who knows what he wants and is willing to take it. You do not go on and say

"Hey, will you make out with me?"

That's like she's doing you a favor. She's your girlfriend, not your master. 3 months, let me guess. You threw her the "Will you be my girlfriend?" line. Either that, or some other silly way that was NOT a kiss on the lips.

Alright man, this is how it's going to go. When she gets back, throw her in your arms and give her the most passionate kiss you have ever given to anyone. And if you've never given a passionate kiss, then you'll have to guess what a passionate kiss is like and top that. Do not say a word about it after or before. Just do it. Girls love to feel like their man can't hold back his hormones and just HAS to kiss them. Not WANT, HAS.

Guy, you're with a girl. She should like kissing just as much as you. Girls typically do not initiate the kissing, especially if you two don't do it often. It's just one of those girl things you'll have to deal with. Some girls do, a lot don't.

If you want to kiss your girlfriend, kiss her. If she has a problem with it, she'll TELL you. You can be sure of that. Just don't base your relationship on make out sessions, she'll figure you're just using her for that. But if the time is right and you're alone. Go for it, no questions, just answers. Grab her face and do it. Cut the sissy care about her feelings crap. If she cares about yours, she'll kiss you.

Simple.

 

[CoRVeTTe6699]

just do it.. dont ask

 

[arcilitei34]

Ok Thanks NRM makes sense to me, and no, i didnt ask her out like that, i just told her i had feelings for her. =)

 

[Microphone Fiend]

Originally posted by arcilitei34
Ok Thanks NRM makes sense to me, and no, i didnt ask her out like that, i just told her i had feelings for her. =)

lol, okay rule #2...Try not to tell her how you feel, SHOW her! Actions speak louder than words

 

[NRM]

Yes, Microphone Fiend is right. Telling a girl you have feelings for her is like saying,

"Hey, I like you, so I'm going to tell you so that you know for sure, even though I have no idea how you feel for me or no general confirmation about your feelings at all."

And even if you did, she didn't come out and say it to you as you did to her. And people say girls ARE emotional. Ha.

Since you are where you are, I wouldn't let it concern you too much, but for future reference, actions ARE much louder than words. The bold move of a kiss without permission is saying "I need to kiss you." Not "Will you kiss me?" If you want to be a man, you have to grow out of that stage. When was the last time you heard your parents ask for a kiss.

In general, the first move you should make to let a girl know you like her a kiss. A slight peck on the lips that lingers. As of right now, you kind of seem a little influenced by TV and the media as to be the perfect boyfriend. The media's image of the perfect boyfriend IS wrong. Be a man, attract, do not pursue.

So just in case you come across it in the future, go on a date, if YOU are interested, on your terms of course, do HER a favor of giving her a kiss on the lips. Forget if she's interested, you'll find out if she pushes you away.

Guy, start treating every aspect of your relationship this way and you'll find that girls will naturally become more attracted to you and you won't have to start to panic everytime things start to happen. She should be more interested in you than you are in her. As odd as it may seems, it creates an solid relationship where she pursues you and you don't have a thing to worry about.

And this became more drawn-out than I meant it to be... snaps.

 

[Fabrizio]

NRM basically laid it out on his first post bro, I couldn't have said it better myself.