There's a worker at a store I went to a couple times. She has sorta shy body language and was smiling at me a lot so there might be a possibility. There are a few workers who always jump at helping me out, but I want to talk to her. And I don't wanna look rude, ignoring the other workers just to talk to the one I think is cute. The other workers might think "who the hell is this guy, hitting on my friend" and might end up being protective and c0ckblocking me. How do I do it?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How do I approach a female store worker, without annoying the other workers?
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Does an Alpha care what other people think of him? And who cares if they get annoyed? You're gonna lose some good ol' IL.
On the other hand, hit on all of them.... Jk
On the other hand, hit on all of them.... Jk
I don't know....one way you could get around this would be to go up, and when one of the other workers offers to help, thank her but tell her there is something you need to give the shy girl. Then give her a slip of paper that says, "My phone number is:"
If I was in your shoes, i'd befriend all her co-workers so that they become your best supporters and encourage her to connect with you. This is especially important because if she likes you, you don't want her co-workers to be ****blockers, especially when there's nothing you can do about it when you're not there. Example - you get her phone number and she wants to go out with you, but then for the next 7 hours on the job her co-workers ****block the **** out of you and there's nothing you can do because you're not there to defend yourself.BBruce said:
While you're working on that, find a reason to isolate her away from her co-workers so you can go for the number close and/or secure a date.
Spot's right. You should make her colleagues all adore you.Spot said:
The problem with hitting on girls who are at work, is that it's their job to be nice to you. And if you approach one and tell her you want some spend some private time with her, there's no where for her to go if she doesn't like you.
There's a super sweet girl who I approached once at work because I couldn't handle the doubt "does she like me or not?!", so I just went in for it and she didn't appreciate it very much. It is her job to be nice after all, but damn, what does she expect?
My advice is that you should make your move, at least if you can't handle the doubt, but be subtle and be nice. Don't drive her into a corner
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
As Chamber36 and Spot have noted, the key is to be friends with everyone.
I just had a date with the manager of a clothing store. By the time she asked me out I had already befriended several of the (all male) staff, remembering their names. At least 5 friendships were formed while I largely ignored her (over about a month or two). For examples, I gave one guy advice about how to cure his cough and spoke to another about how well he dressed (and how much the suspenders helped me score).
During lunch with her I mentioned how cool one of the guys was and she said "he adores you!" and mentioned several of the other conversations. In other words she had already asked them about me. On my next visit she was making it obvious to them that she and I were dating. You can NEVER be the one to do that as most of the other men are indeed jealous.
I just had a date with the manager of a clothing store. By the time she asked me out I had already befriended several of the (all male) staff, remembering their names. At least 5 friendships were formed while I largely ignored her (over about a month or two). For examples, I gave one guy advice about how to cure his cough and spoke to another about how well he dressed (and how much the suspenders helped me score).
During lunch with her I mentioned how cool one of the guys was and she said "he adores you!" and mentioned several of the other conversations. In other words she had already asked them about me. On my next visit she was making it obvious to them that she and I were dating. You can NEVER be the one to do that as most of the other men are indeed jealous.
Note that I didn't intentionally try to befriend everyone at her store. I had done that on my own simply because I shop there. I didn't even really notice this woman to be honest. One shouldn't become a different person around a woman they like.
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Stop worrying. Stop overanalyzing. Stop procrastinating.
Make a f**kin' move already!
Case closed. Sh*t.
Make a f**kin' move already!
Case closed. Sh*t.