"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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HoW Do ExAcTlY ShoW hEr YouR VaLuE?

xconquerx

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To make her chase you, you have to show her your values right? then when she starts showing interests, you take a step back from the game... am i on da right track???

First, how do exactly show her your values?
--values, u mean your interests towards her?

Second, what exactly is the value?
like your personality? humor? or how much you care abot her??

Well i want to try "spinning plate theory" on this chich who is plying 'hard to get" so i would appreciate it if you Playas can advice.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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donpepot

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xconquerx said:
To make her chase you, you have to show her your values right? then when she starts showing interests, you take a step back from the game... am i on da right track???

First, how do exactly show her your values?
--values, u mean your interests towards her?

Second, what exactly is the value?
like your personality? humor? or how much you care abot her??

Well i want to try "spinning plate theory" on this chich who is plying 'hard to get" so i would appreciate it if you Playas can advice.
BY MAKING YOUR DOG SALIVATE FORE MORE DOG FOOD...LET HER TASTE IT AND DONT GIVE IT EVERYTIME SHE WANTS IT... YOUR IN CONTROL WHETEHER YOUR GONNA FEED THE DOG OR NOT...
 

The Comeback Kid

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xconquerx said:
To make her chase you, you have to show her your values right? then when she starts showing interests, you take a step back from the game... am i on da right track???
I think what you mean is you flirt with her, attract her until it becomes very clear she is interested in you. Then, you give her the silent treatment (B-Lemond wrote a great post on this), where, if she is definitely interested, will give in and let you know of her interest.

xconquerx said:
First, how do exactly show her your values?
--values, u mean your interests towards her?
The way to do this is...not point them directly at her (do them, but don't intend your actions towards her). In fact, only have her in the back of your mind. It is definitely chiche, but the way to show her your values is just by being yourself, and doing what you would ALWAYS and NORMALLY do. Also, confidence is big here - if you are confident in your actions, it will show - if you know your values, just do them normally, no reason to always show it off in front of her.

xconquerx said:
Second, what exactly is the value?
like your personality? humor? or how much you care abot her??
What is the value? The answer - confidence. It sounds small, but it really is the answer. It plays into everything you do. Enough confidence = better results for everything. Too much confidence leads to arrogance and ****iness, but this could be balanced off by C+F (another person that replies to this can probably explain it better). In terms of personality, be outgoing (not shy), engaging, and WITTY - a great way to display humor and C+F. Definitely don't show her "how much you care about her" before she's your gf, unless you're saving her from a fire or something. You don't want to be perceived as a "nice guy" in her mind. Being "assertive" however, is good.

xconquerx said:
Well i want to try "spinning plate theory" on this chich who is plying 'hard to get" so i would appreciate it if you Playas can advice.
I don't know what the spinning plate theory is, but with a girl that's "hard to get", use either the push/pull technique here, or the silent treatment (after enough attraction is built).
 

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Yet another thread where the English is subpar. Fortunately for you, I understood it.

You're 'value' is what you're worth. You have to have some stock. Your personality is probably your greatest asset, and the easiest to change. Your appearance is another one you can change, just not to the same degree.

You show your values in different ways. My appearance value is always on display. My clothing style, my swagger, my general appearance. This is the FIRST thing ladies notice. Keep this on point at all times.

Your personality is more of a follow up. This is probably the most important thing, though. Don't flake on this. Keep the confidence, keep the smooth charm going. Once she realizes how incredible you are, withdraw a little bit. Show her that you aren't going to be available all the time. Keep it random. Be there one day, don't be there another. She'll grow to anticipate your company, to crave it. That is when you are set.

Those are your values.
That is me attempting to "ADVISE" you. Hope it helps. It's really late.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You show value by:

Demonstrating higher value
Pre-selection (social proof)
Social Intelligence
Fun
Having a sense of humor

Most of the outer game about attraction is a DHV.

When they say value its your social value towards them are you cool or lame. If jay-z was to walk into the room and you walked in the same time jay-z will have more social value than you becuase he is a celebrity and all that crap. At the beginning your showing her your social value and then seeing if she has enough value. You then, just get to know her and escalate from there.

If you want a girl to chase false disqualifiers are good, C&F is also good, just simply playing hard to get.
 
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