like i said, the key to a GOOD /solid /healthy long term relationship is knowing the difference between healthy compromises and unhealthy sacrifices.
Dating a woman is a lot lke being in the senate. There is some ****, that you believe in and you want and you aren't budging. There is some **** she believes in and she wants, and she isn't budging.
on the other hand, there are things you don't care for, that under the right circumstance, if they are going to make her happy, you can budget on for the greater good of the relationship and likewise.
this is one of those things that I don't care for but i don't care so much about against that if it's gonna make my wife that much happier, i'm not really gonna put up a fight as long as she's doing what she is suppose dto do. who the **** cares lol? I odn't give a **** about looking AFC there is no question who runs my house, that's not gonna change beucase i got on my knee to propose. and it didn't. if anything beucase i gave her what she wanted it made my job much easier.
I mean, most men, do not have the slightest clue how much women look forward to being married. You know how we get together and go to football games and ****? women get together and go to weddings. they browse threw bridal magazines like we pick up sports magazines. My wife has never been married in her life, and knew step by step everything that had to be done for the **** to go down smoothly. they've been preparing for this day forever.
so in the grand scheme of things, as long as my wife or at that point, my GF is doing what i want her to do, who cares. let her have her day. there is **** that she bends on that I want or like to do. this is the moment they haver been dreaming of and if she has worked her ass off to earn it, give it to her. give it to her all the way.
the fact that you are marrying her int he first place, atl east for me, it rewarding her for being such a kick ass companion and letting her know that hte feeeling was very much mutual. and ****, if i'm doing so that she can have her day and i'm doing it as a reward, **** don't half ass make her happy lol. make her happy. at least that's the way i see it. if i was honestly still worried about coming off as BETA or some ****,marriage would be the furthest thing from my mind with her. this is a woman who 2 weeks ago called me just to ask could she use our joint Amex card to take her girlfriends out for dinner, and wanted to confirm doing so would not **** up any business stuff i had going on becuase she grabbed the wrong purse and we keep a backup Amex in our glove compartment of our car(s). and had i said nope she would have brought her happy ass home without a peep. lol i'm not worried about getting on a knee or not makes me look Aflpha/beta. and
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