How did you get the courage to do your first approach?

[Enyce]

We each had a point after we started laearning about pickup, or some of us perhaps even before, when we went from afraid to talk to random girls to our first approach.

How did you build yourself up to do it? How was it?

 

[Nygard]

Providence by Godspeed You! Black Emperor. I start mumbling the 3rd riff and I'd feel more courageous and way better. But don't take my word, just personal preference and I stopped approaching about 6 months ago.

 

[Enyce]

You stopped approaching? As in girls started approaching you?

 

[Nygard]

No, actually it's a little sad if you see it from your POV. I became a workaholic and didn't have time for approaching. With women, I'm basically back at square 1 I'm afraid. But I'm feeling really good about my major and how I've been doing with it so I dont care anymore.

 

[Maxwell]

I just forced myself to do it one day, as I was painfully aware of how far behind I was in this field. of course, I failed epically on my first attempt, but it was a good learning experience.

 

[smoothtalker72]

technically my first approach was via my job (i work at walmart) i saw this pretty attractive girl who looked like she was lost so i walked up and asked if she needed help with anything. she was just looking around but when i went to walk away she quickly called me back just to chat it up a little bit. didnt really go anywhere

my first real approach was with a girl that worked at taco bell. she was on her break and it looked like she was having a bad day so i just wanted to make her smile. told her a couple jokes and learned a little about her. got her number and even went out with her.... once..... all i've got to say on that is.... never again (with her at least).

anyway yea i was "scared" but i figured id rather get shot down then wonder "what if". i've been there. not a good place to be.

 

[Aragon034]

same as above, i hated the "what-ifs?" i would ask myself.

Finally, after reading Mystery's stuff, i was just pissed off to no end, something about me is that my greatest motivation is anger. I was angry at myself for not being what i wanted to be.

At the time, my hero was Tucker Max (some of you might have heard of him) a few of his stories resemble **** that happened to me sans the girls. Stuff like killing a hotel toilet (not easy to do) and i couldn't help but wonder why i wasn't like him with the chicks. Soon after, i realised that i shouldn't try and be more like "him" but more like "me", a naturally ****y and funny guy.

My first "approach" in what i think the OP meant was a girl i worked with (it was her first day) and i just went balls out and did it. Just walked right up and said "hey, how you doing?"

kept the conversation going, never let her know i worked there (she obviously found out later) and managed to walk away with a smile and little hand squeeze. I was ecstatic. It was possible!

Ever since, its been rebuilding the tattered husk of my life and its only gotten better.

 

[mcs]

How did you build yourself up to do it? How was it?

I won't build it up or force myself to do it, ever. when i go out, i focus on being playful. that's really ALL what you need. sometimes it takes just some time, like a 15 minutes or so to get into the mood there :box:

 

[ac3]

i ended up approaching a 60 something year old lady and asking her for her number lol.. when i was 15? hahaa, i read too much stuff and i didn't care. i just wanted to get the method down right

 

[alphamailman]

I just realized I was gonna die someday and decided to approach. To be honest though, I don't remember the 1st approach but that's how it happened. You realize that it's ok to approach and need to do so.

 

[Solomon]

:crazy: I remember it very well, sorta

I was buzz'd walking with my wing and some peeps seen this hb8 just goregous so as we are walking Im like "hey ladies im from chicago where is a good place to go around here..."

They completly ignored me, were all the same bar. Im buzz'd up just feeling like a super AFC. MY wing at the time who is a natural, puts his arm around me and says "which chick you wanna talk too? any one" (he was that ****y and good)

I pointed to the hb8, we go over there, this guy just opens up the set, and he points to me to talk, I look at both of them like an idiot. He looks at me and says give me your phone :/ I hand it over to him, he finishes it (all in under 3 mintues) granted nothing ever happend but thats how I got my first number. LOL my wing actually got it, anyway how I got it on my own is a different story...............

solo

 

[chinwaggler]

My first approach... I was with a few friends and searched the internet for some stupid openers so that we could make our night fun. I went first seeing as it was my idea. Saw a lady probably 10 years older then me, made eye contact...:

"Hey can I ask you something....... It's really important......... Life or death situation........ Bacon or ham?"

"**** off!"

Funny thing is I think she was kidding but I bailed so..