How did you deal with your moments of loneliness?

[tesla8520]

In various phases of my life there have been many moments of loneliness. I think it's kind of normal for people to feel this way sometimes. It invites us to reevaluate our relationships and take the big step towards seeking more meaningful relationships.

Precisely this made me reflect on the fact that some couples broke up (some worse, divorced) precisely because they were not "connected"... well, you understand what I mean... and these women chose partners who seemed more "friendzoned" but who currently had a deeper connection with them.



How did you deal with your moments of loneliness? Has it changed your relationship with women? The older people get, the more they seek fewer but deeper relationships?

 

[BaronOfHair]

-Treating them as opportunities for self-reflection

-Contacting others myself

-Getting active in local events

-Walking down the street and talking to folks

The lists of remedies are endless

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi tesla,
The Baron is right,there are endless remedies...I do a light work out watching TV Comedy shows...Take the Old Dog for a walk in the bush...Being born a Loner helps.

 

[corrector]

Watch a music video like this, lol (I don't actually ever feel lonely -- too much in my own little world for that)

 

[eli77]

Ive always had a friend to watch my back.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

1.) Ride the motorcycle.
2.) Go on a mini or vacation solo.
3.) Binge Highlander the series.
4.) Order a pizza and a six pack. (A shoulder or Leg day is a required prerequisite.)
5.) Ride my motorcycle until I have to refill the tank then go home.
6.) Shoot billiards until you have the chance to meet someone new.
7.) Set up a chessboard in some random nerdish cafe/roasterie/tavern and make a move on the board while reading a GOOD BOOK.
8.) Or just read the danged book. "E-Myth Revisited", "How to win friends and influence people", "Mentor the Kid and the CEO", "Think and grow rich", etc...
9.) Ride the motorcycle through exercises that are difficult in a parking lot until people make fun of you. (You won't be the one a$$hat who puts a passenger on the back of his bike and wipes out being stupid) Your passenger will not know the true reason why she's so glad she went riding with you.
10.) Do something that is fun to YOU and meet new people. Then you'll have buddies to hang out with. Buddies know girls. You get the idea.


It's not like you won't have a discussion topic to bring up if a hot young thing gets into proximity. Or the chance to encourage her to try what you're up to! Don't overdo it with drinks, because then you won't be able to drive/ride.

That's just what I did. I know exactly what you mean about friendship dynamics changing as we age. It's 100% true. Then can be awkward when you're hinging around those who are in their 20s. hehe. Makes you think "Do I even belong here? I'm still having fun."

 

[Gamisch]

I embraced loneliness so much that it's rather a virtue than a burden. I'd say I don't even experience that feeling anymore.


*There's only 24 hours in a day. I'm always grinding, looking for people who need my services . That makes time= money.

* I have numerous fitness goals. Always trying to improve my skills in either ( muay thai) boxing, ground game or fitness.

* i try to expand my knowledge on several aspects of life. Can be history, cooking skills ect. Keeping my crib spotless.

* and of course if I do have spare time I will find a woman to join me To do whatever. Can be something spontaneous and adventurous, cab be just fecking and chilling, can be something simple like eating at a restaurant ( hence why the money part is so important so I can ALWAYS make the move I wanna make.

Do NOT let the world tell you how you should feel. If you're dependent on other people for your happiness you're doing it wrong imo.

 

[tesla8520]

I'm always grinding, looking for people who need my services

It could be summed up with this sentence...

 

[Travel memoir21]

1.) Ride the motorcycle.
2.) Go on a mini or vacation solo.
3.) Binge Highlander the series.
4.) Order a pizza and a six pack. (A shoulder or Leg day is a required prerequisite.)
5.) Ride my motorcycle until I have to refill the tank then go home.
6.) Shoot billiards until you have the chance to meet someone new.
7.) Set up a chessboard in some random nerdish cafe/roasterie/tavern and make a move on the board while reading a GOOD BOOK.
8.) Or just read the danged book. "E-Myth Revisited", "How to win friends and influence people", "Mentor the Kid and the CEO", "Think and grow rich", etc...
9.) Ride the motorcycle through exercises that are difficult in a parking lot until people make fun of you. (You won't be the one a$$hat who puts a passenger on the back of his bike and wipes out being stupid) Your passenger will not know the true reason why she's so glad she went riding with you.
10.) Do something that is fun to YOU and meet new people. Then you'll have buddies to hang out with. Buddies know girls. You get the idea.


It's not like you won't have a discussion topic to bring up if a hot young thing gets into proximity. Or the chance to encourage her to try what you're up to! Don't overdo it with drinks, because then you won't be able to drive/ride.

That's just what I did. I know exactly what you mean about friendship dynamics changing as we age. It's 100% true. Then can be awkward when you're hinging around those who are in their 20s. hehe. Makes you think "Do I even belong here? I'm still having fun."

Loved Highlander growing up. Your post brought up the fact that it's way more fun to be single and bachelor these days.

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

Loved Highlander growing up. Your post brought up the fact that it's way more fun to be single and bachelor these days.

Man, can't it be?

 

[Lauel]

In various phases of my life there have been many moments of loneliness. I think it's kind of normal for people to feel this way sometimes. It invites us to reevaluate our relationships and take the big step towards seeking more meaningful relationships.

Precisely this made me reflect on the fact that some couples broke up (some worse, divorced) precisely because they were not "connected"... well, you understand what I mean... and these women chose partners who seemed more "friendzoned" but who currently had a deeper connection with them.



How did you deal with your moments of loneliness? Has it changed your relationship with women? The older people get, the more they seek fewer but deeper relationships?

I ride.
I read books of great men who have come before me.
I cherish the birds, and adore the sky.
I thank God for what I have.
I meet with good people, who are time tested and have stood by me.

 

[Travel memoir21]

Man, can't it be?

You’re a former Marine right?

 

[RoadKing_Rabbit]

You’re a former Marine right?

Prior SERVICE Marine. I'm a Marine til death! But yes, you'd be correct.