"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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how did i get myself in the friend zone?

duke104

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ive known this girl for about 2-3 weeks and i was beginning to wonder if theres something there. i never once called/texted her first...she always initiated the conversation and ive been using some ****y funny stuff on her. today i asked her out to dinner and she said she didnt wanna mess up our friendship. wtf did i do wrong?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BeyondCharm

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Besides possibly waiting too long and spending too much time "friending" here with the texting/phone stuff, you initiated a first date request for dinner when dinner implies heavy-seriousness and is usually avoided as a first date. I recommend coffee / hangout type first dates.
 

TheCzar

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Yea I agree - asking out for dinner is way to serious in this day and age. I would have gone for the coffee or am grabbing drinks somewhere type of move - the casual approach seems to always work for me. Dinner gets her prediction "what if" engine running... That rarely works n your favor.

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duke104

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what sucks is that shes friends with a lot of my friends so ill be seeing her a lot...is there a certain way i should act? should i act like nothings wrong, give her the cold shoulder, etc?
 
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